Won't ask for help

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Registered: 02-14-2007
Won't ask for help
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Tue, 01-08-2008 - 8:59pm

I just got an interesting insight from my two kids. My DS just told me--after being at home with me for hours--that he failed a recent math test. He is a pretty bright kid, and should be doing much better in math than he is. I think much of the problem is that he's so disorganized, and that can really throw you off in math. But he usually manages C's or even B's. So I called my DD over and checked her math grade online, and it has gone down from an A- to a C+. I'm a little upset with both of them, because neither of them goes out of their way to ask for extra help at school, or even from DH an me.


I suggested peer tutoring to my DD. She's a sophomore, and I told her she really can't let her grades slide if there's any way she can bring them up. I thought peer tutoring might be a good way to get some help from other kids, especially since they'd be more likely to know what the teacher is looking for than DH or I would. (She needs to bring up her English grade too because she has the teacher from he** this year.) I couldn't understand her resistance until my DS blurted out "That would be social suicide, Mom!"


Gee, I had never thought of that! These kids are so frustrating. My DD said that all that does is tell the other kids at school that you're dumb. I said "That's ridiculous! Everybody can't be good at everything. Everybody needs help with something at some time." I said that the only thing that's dumb is needing help, having help available, and not taking advantage of it.


Any ideas? She "claims" that she goes to her teacher for extra help sometimes before school. I can more or less force my DS to go for extra help because he's still in middle scool, but there's only so much I can do with my DD.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 10:55pm

ah heck, ej, I know how you feel.

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Registered: 08-20-2003
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 9:54am

Oh I can relate to your frustration.


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