Worried about my 18 yr old
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Worried about my 18 yr old
| Sun, 04-08-2007 - 5:51pm |
Hello. I could use some help from someone out there. I have an 18 yr old with emotional problems, diabetes, and depression. He does not live with me. He lives with his father on the west coast. I have been separated from my son since he was 13 yrs old when he went away to boarding school. I have a 14 yr old daughter who lives with me. I have no communication w/my former husband. I want my son to go to school after college. My son doesn't have any motivation, goals, and his grandparents were going to allow him to live with them so that he could attend college. I see no future for this child. He cannot live with me because he is destructive and violent. He refuses bipolar medication and don't know how to turn him around. Does any one have a similar situation? My life as a mother is very isolated and I don't know how to help this child.

Sorry you're dealing with this. Unfortunately, I don't know what to tell you. You say your DS refuses to take medication for his bipolar, he's destructive, violent and unmotivated. Maybe it's best he doesn't start college right now, because I'm afraid it's just going to be throwing money away if HE doesn't want it. Maybe a year or two having to face the real world of working for minimum wage will wake him up and make him realize the need for more education - and maybe he'll discover a decent paying job that doesn't need any further education. One of my DSs is making pretty darned good money in contstruction, no need for further schooling in his job, the boss moves people up to more responsible (and higher paying) jobs as they prove themselves capable.
Hang in there, I hope something clicks for your DS soon.
Rose
I'm not sure you have any sort of active role here - if you have been separated from him for 5 years and don't communicate with his father....
but, there is a strong national organization for kids with BP and their families. It sounds like mental health services (not just medication) is what your son needs. Check out this group: http://www.bpkids.org. You'll get information and support.
Sue