Would you ask your teen's bf/gf for help
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|Thu, 03-27-2003 - 6:20pm|
I don't mean a bf/gf who's relatively new to the family but one you've known for a long time. What're your thoughts on this? I grew up in a home where my mom thought nothing of asking ANY of my friends, male or female, to help her with something, like 'could you take the garbage & drop it in the can on your way out?" ... or even move furniture around; hang something she couldn't reach; even yard work & shoveling snow at times.
How do you feel about asking your teen's bf/gf to help? Or would you wait for them to offer? And if you wait for them to offer, how often do they actually offer? I asked my dd's bf to drag & hoist up several green garbage bags for me as I've recently done something to my back and my dd is in physio for a problem with her neck. My neighbor told me that she would NEVER do that, no matter how well she knew the guy or girl unless they offered to help as it wasn't their responsibility since they weren't a member of the family & that my asking could have given the bf the idea that he was 'expected' to do things like this (which is ludicrous; he's been around our family for 4 out of the last 6 yrs and HE didn't mind). I'm just curious as to how many others feel that way or how many would ask and if you think that'd be an issue.
*I* think my personal, bigger issue would be that he's here all the time; I've done lots of favors to him without even being asked, AND being asked ... sometimes I think back to what I was expected to do when at someone else's house and wish he'd OFFER more but just decided a long time ago that he likely thinks I'll ask if I need something done, lol.