Wow, my 17 year old daughter is a criminal, and only two people offer any suggestions?

Has your dd been evaluated? If so what is her diagnosis? does she have a history of behavioral health issues? It is one thing to look into resources regarding sociopathic behavior and another to be evaluated and diagnosed as such. Has anything happened in her past to cause her to act in this manner? If your dd's moods/behaviors have changed from the norm, I would look into any reason before possibly labeling her a sociopath. This was the case for my son, and we didn't realize it until much later. He was diagnosed with PTSD, depression, anxiety and pychotic disorder NOS, at age 11. At the time we couldn't figure out why he was literally coming unglued at the seams. My son was the victim of sexual assault, and now at 17 his life is a mess. So I just wanted to let you know that sometimes kids act out because they are hurting, and it can really spiral out of control.

Since the first psych diagnosed your dd as emotionally age 12 and you don't agree, get another opinion if this would make you more comfortable. But keep in mind, she will be a young adult very soon, and you need to do what you can to get her on track emotionally so that she can cope in the world.

My ds has finally agreed to get mental health services and assistance for his drug use, so we will do what we can to get him on track, and to help him get some coping skills in place before he turns 18, so hopefully he will feel he doesn't have to turn to whatever drug to feel better when he is upset.

I hope you can get the issues worked out with your dd, but one thing I have learned along the way is that they must want to meet you half way, otherwise it is a losing battle.