WWYD...

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Registered: 11-13-2004
WWYD...
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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 8:21am

One of DD's best friends called late Sunday AM for help because her car broke down.
DD asked me if she could go. I said I will go with her as she's only been licensed 2 weeks, and B might need help with the car.
B (17) tells DD no - DD only, or she will get someone else to help.
This suprised me. B is a pretty good kid.
Sorry. Nope.

I haven't discussed this circus with DD yet. I need to convey a message to both of them; especially B (through DD). Before I do that, I'd like your input.

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Registered: 11-13-2004
In reply to: daddioe
Fri, 11-03-2006 - 7:24pm

At the risk of keeping a dead thread alive....

I got nowhere with DD last night.
She's as tight lipped on this as a clam in the off season...
All I got was that B's in trouble and her parents do know about it. She would never betray the trust that her friend requested. (eh..not bad)
It was interesting that she considers the matter closed. I again reminded her of how this looks to me, and how this may affect her privileges spending time with B.
She looks at me like a deer in the headlights..Am I being punished?
As reasonably mature DD seems in many areas, this reminds me just how... SIXTEEN she is. There are some areas of that little brain that haven't quite filled in yet.. :-)

Betty, your point on the "Super Christians" is well taken, especially in light of today's news regarding the national evangelical leader moron Ted Haggard.
Similarly, DD's prior weenie boy boyfriend endeared himself to adults by putting on a good church-going show, but my gut tells me B really internalizes her Christianity. That's what makes this little puzzle so darn intriguing...
We all do make mistakes. Hopefully not the ongoing, deceitful weenie boy / Haggard type.
D

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In reply to: daddioe
Fri, 11-03-2006 - 8:02pm
Wow - this really has my curiosity up now!
Pam
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Registered: 10-16-1999
In reply to: daddioe
Sat, 11-04-2006 - 5:50am

Haven't said anything on this thread, but I have been intrigued.... have to wonder what in the world is up!


Love your comment about being so sixteen... that's just where I am with N's b/f - he's a nice enough kid, but he's just SO fifteen that it slays me sometimes.

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Registered: 11-29-2005
In reply to: daddioe
Sat, 11-04-2006 - 10:34am

dang it Daddioe!! You know my mind's construct is making it "better" than it really is...which makes the itch all the more itchy.


LOL about the moron Haggard. I read this morning in the paper he said it was only massages he got from the male prostitute. I could not stop laughing for 10 minutes. I'm starting to giggle right now thinking of how absolutely absurd that is!! And I suppose he was merely holding the meth for a friend. I prefer my skanks to be honest about who they are. I DETEST a hippocrate above all else.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: daddioe
Sat, 11-04-2006 - 11:57am

>>>>how this may affect her privileges spending time with B.<<<

This part really struck home with me - I try not to "punish" my DD for things her friends do, but gradually she has to see that their stupidity reflects on her. Also, the stupidity of their parents. Thus, an overly permissive parent of a friend makes it less likely that DD will get unsuperivsed time with the friend. A 15 or 16yo brain may not see this, but my ANCIENT brain sees it clearly!

Hang in there daddio - one day our healthy and happy adult children will thank us!

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