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Yet another Monday
| Mon, 02-13-2006 - 12:42pm |
I am SO tired of Monday's with my DD/13. Same crud this morning...head hurts, etc.
I told her too bad...get dressed. I actually had to put her socks on her and I told her that I'd pick her up and put her in the car if I had to. No I was not particularily nice about it.
I was not nice about it, so she started slamming my fiance. I just let that go by.
Her mid-quarter progress report was a mess. B,C,D,F in the core subjects. I told her the only way she can get those grades up was to be in class.
Last week she was there everyday...and then we start this nonsense again.
I'm starting to have small thought that maybe I should lose the custody eval next week.

Sorry your week is off to a bad start. Did you ever look into learning WHY your DD dislikes school so much? I think if you could get to the real reason(s), and what exactly is going on there (is she being bullied? outcast? has a learning disability and just finds the work too difficult?) you may have better success than you are now.
I know that your DD is not in 1st grade, BUT when my DS was in 1st, he had a LOT of tummy aches, didn't feel goods, etc. Turns out his teacher was a big screamer and yeller and her outbursts terrified him, even though he knew she was not yelling at him.
If it was me, I would be wondering what was going on at school to cause her to act this way.
Just my two pennies.
Many reasons for the problems...
Outcast?...yep.
Mother she cannot tolerate being at the same park with to watch her brother play baseball?...yep
Single Dad?...yep
She was on the Honor Roll the first two quarters, but from quarter to quarter, the grades have been sliding.
This stuff has to stop...I'm missing to much work, and I'm going looney trying to solve this problem.
You're probably going to laugh, but there actually is something called Didaskaleinophobia, or "fear of school". Check out this link: http://psychcentral.com/library/id409.html
Your dd reminds me alot of my sister, who struggled with this for years. She had counseling (although not consistent, and that can make all the difference IMHO) and basically my parents fell down on the job and did not succeed in getting her the help that she needed, and/or forcing her to go to school anyway. She did not graduate from high school and to this day blames my parents. She's got a good point - its a parent's job to protect kids from mistakes that will have lasting irrevocable consequences. But I think we've established that your dd is a troubled teen and needs counseling immediately. I fail to see what having a bad relationship with her mom and your being a single dad has anything to do with her not wanting to go to school. It's much more likely that she is being harrased and/or teased mercilessly at school and you should not take that lightly. Have you taken steps with the school? They need to be involved - there are alot of resources there, and in my experience alot of parents fail to involve the school for fear of labeling their child. Please don't make this mistake.
I'm waiting to see what rock says about this...time for boot camp yet?