15 yr old having unprotected sex! :-O

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Registered: 07-12-2011
15 yr old having unprotected sex! :-O
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Tue, 07-12-2011 - 11:15pm

Hi moms,

I am feeling very disappointed, upset and sick to my stomach over some info I found out today. P is a 15 year old girl whose parents are divorced (when P was around 9 or 10). The mom lives in another state and P stayed with her Dad. Her parents aren't exactly perfect. The mom is always going on vacation with her boyfriend and rarely calls her daughter. She comes to visit every once in while but you would say her parenting style is pretty much an

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Wed, 07-13-2011 - 7:57am
Honestly I'm not sure if what I'm saying is valid as I've never been in this situation but if the parents are so disinterested I get the impression they'd be upset with you if you said anything and likely wouldn't do much anyway. Maybe a school counselor can help? Can you talk to them in confidence and see if they can offer anything to her, pointing out that the parents likely wouldn't do anything?
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Wed, 07-13-2011 - 1:52pm

The unprotected sex is certainly an issue, but I'd be more concerned about her living with someone who spends all day in the bar, leaving her alone.

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Thu, 03-29-2012 - 8:13pm

I agree with suzk2118 about contacting a school conselor. You can ask that they maintain your anonymity so that P doesn't feel betrayed by you.

Call DCFS is a big step but if P really has such a difficult home life that might also be a good option.

My advice? Be there for P. I've heard so many stories of non-related adults making wonderful impressions on troubling teens just by offering to be there for them: coffee trips, sounding boards, whatever you can offer.

P is going to resistant to your efforts at first because it sounds like she's not used to adults caring about her well-being. With enough time she'll come around. You're a great person for being there!

- Amy

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