Freaking out here.......

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Freaking out here.......
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Tue, 05-03-2011 - 3:20pm

My DD used my phone the other day because hers wasn't working.

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Wed, 05-04-2011 - 7:27am

I don't know that there's a gyn who will see your DD if she adamently refuses to go, or who will put her on BC if she doesn't want it, but I do understand your wanting her to go.

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Wed, 05-04-2011 - 7:58am
ITA - maybe you could ask if she'd at least go to talk to the gyn; then together they (if she wants, with you there too) can talk and she can make a decision based on what she hears, vs. making it mandatory that she gets on BC as a result of the appt?
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Registered: 04-16-2009
Wed, 05-04-2011 - 10:17am

Maybe you can use the ploy that, by a certain age, even non-SA girls should go and see a Gyn. It is part of keeping healthly.

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Wed, 05-04-2011 - 10:27pm

Freaking out is what us parents do a lot of.

In my very unhumble opinion, all is fare or fair in love, war, and especially parenting.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 05-05-2011 - 12:12pm

Do you take her for a regular appt. w/ the pediatrician?

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Thu, 05-05-2011 - 9:34pm

Good points musiclover!

It was the pediatrician that gave our daughters hepatitis shots.

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Registered: 05-08-1999
Sat, 07-09-2011 - 10:34am
As much as we want to, freaking out does not help the situation. All I can say is to keep the lines of communication open. In a world where everybody is having sex, it doesn't mean that everyone is actually doing it. THere is so much peer pressure out there to follow the norm. You raised her and you know her, you are her best example. As parents we have to give them the tools to be safe, but we can't do that if they aren't on speaking terms with our kids. Keep your relationship open and honest ... that's really all you can do.