I saw where you said that the soon to be daddy was maturing.
Rose, I posted to you on that TT thread, some thoughts for getting S to "move on".
I'm sure that the first thing S would say is that he CAN'T move in with his g/f's family because her parents hate him.
Another snow day here in Cowboy land, six plus inches.
I do agree that N & T need a stable and HEALTHY base of operations to bring their baby home to... and his mom's house is neither.
You go out and get your toes done, and let your DH give S the facts of life--alone.
Get my toes done... now THAT sounds like a fun time! LOL