New - Dealing with drinking/sex

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Registered: 06-29-2011
New - Dealing with drinking/sex
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 10:47am

I'm new here - I think I posted back when my DD's where babies/toddlers.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 12:00pm

You've only got a limited amount of time to rein her in before this gets worse, and it will get worse. First of all, get her on BC. She asked for it because she knew she was having sex and wanted to do the right thing, at least as far as not getting pg goes. So get her to the doctor today. Call the GYN in advance and make sure she gives your DD the lecture on STDs. Old enough to have sex, old enough to handle the lecture.

Second, if you don't want her to have sex, and it sounds as if you don't, then limit contact with the BF. No way would my kid be going over there without an adult (who shares the same values) present. Yep, she will find a way

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 3:31pm

Couple things jump out at me...

Her and her friends just LOVE movies that have to do with weed, the more weed they smoke, the better they like the movie.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 10:58pm

Well sabrtooth, you pretty much covered everything I wanted to say.

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Thu, 06-30-2011 - 8:58am

I agree with sabr and music on this one. Your dd is still so very young - only 14 - and as mad as she's going to be I think you need to reign her in big time. IMO there's really no reason to be having sleep overs in high school becuase they often lead to kids doing things they shouldn't be doing. My boys are now 21 and 24 and any 'gf' they had in middle school consisted of them sitting together at school lunches or assemblies, sitting together on the school bus, and if there happened to be an after-school dance during the 'romance' they would dance a time or two with them there. We never allowed them to have girls over to the house at that age (unless in a big group of kids) let alone in their rooms period. My 21 yo was married for a brief time and I didn't even let them sleep together in my house before they got married even though they lived together elsewhere. That being said - where there's a will there's a way and if your dd is already SA then yes, she should be on BC.

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Registered: 07-24-1997
Thu, 06-30-2011 - 9:10am

I can't think of a better response than Sabr's.

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Fri, 07-01-2011 - 12:10am

Ok, if you have a daughter who has been SA, she will probably repeat that activity because it is so darn enjoyable.