16yo boy crashed car, has other problems
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|Mon, 09-17-2012 - 6:31pm|
My fiance's 16yo son took his car in the middle of the night the other night and ran into a parked truck. He almost hit a pedestrian. No injuries. We know he smokes pot and cigarettes and that he drinks. We don't know the frequency of the pot or alcohol, but cigarettes are pretty frequent. He also skips school at will and his grades are very low.
By my fiance's report, he used to do very well in school and didn't have problems with smoking or drinking before 2011. We don't know what changed except maybe his group of friends. We know they have a lot of problems (stints in juvie, smoking, etc.).
I don't want to go into too many details because I don't know what will happen now in the legal system. I just wanted to see if anyone has suggestions on how to deal with this.
I'm having a hard time focusing on work and I have a tight schedule to finish my PhD. I almost invariably leave the room shortly after the 16yo enters because he does or says something aggravating and I'm already close to blowing up at him just because of accumulated frustration with his behavior.
Please give suggestions if you have any for how my fiance and I can deal with the crash in particular or the 16yo in general. I don't know how to get through another 15 or so months of this.