cold hearted 12 year old New MEMBER HERE please help!!!

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Registered: 12-18-2011
cold hearted 12 year old New MEMBER HERE please help!!!
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Sun, 12-18-2011 - 2:17am

I am 43 my husband 44 we have 3 children living with us.

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Registered: 11-05-1998

Learning respect for others.... even though we may not agree with their positions..... is a very important aspect of growing up.

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Registered: 01-21-2008

First of all Beckytyree, I really hope you're still with us! Sorry I'm chiming in so late but my computer is dying on me so I haven't been on much.

I read through all the responses and for a brand new poster here, I guess I can see why you would be hesitant to post again. Obviously YOUR situation is very personal to you, and alot of the responses probably seem like an attack. I honestly don't think anybody meant it that way. I also don't think anybody that hasen't personally experienced a child like this can really understand. We don't know you and your family, we don't know your family dynamics, how your kids were raised...etc. It's automatic to ASSume WE the parents are ALWAYS responsible for the people our children become, and to some extent thats true. Then theres kids like THIS. It sounds like the poster "Marina" that sent her daughter to that "camp" had one, and I had one too. I DO understand (I think, with so little information).

There are so many questions I'd like to ask you! Since I don't know if you'll be back or not I won't go too far. 1st you say DD is 12. Is that just turned 12 or is she closer to 13? How long has she had this defiant combative personality? Always? Suddenly? What "grade group" is she in- she could be the top of the heap in an elementary school or somewhere in a middle school (generally 6th -8th) or Jr. High (generally 7th-9th), depends on where you live. I ask because it does matter if her age and maturity are far below her classmates. Some kids start out on a brilliant fast track (ya know, 1st grade 5yo's?), but when their classmates and best friends are a year or two older...it can be a

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