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| Fri, 01-28-2011 - 2:14pm |
Hello,
I have an 18 year old daughter that I'm very worried about and I could really use some advice.
My daughter has been in and out of trouble for most of her teen years.
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Sue
Part of what is going on is her disorder, but another part is, she's 18!
I think you've gotten some good advice from sabrtooth, I don't have much to add, other than it's incredibly difficult to make that choice to send them on their way when you know they don't have the tools to do it successfully.
I too, think everything sabrtooth said is right on. My exception is that I will NOT let my 21yo DD back into my home to live. She will have to live with her choices- but if it ever comes to it my oldest DD will take her almost 2yo with me as backup.
How is your other DD? Is she younger and still at home also? I know that when our household was in the midst of DD#2's stuff, the younger often suffered for it, the oldest was already on her own when it really blew up so wasen't nearly as affected.
Well, the boys never drained their bank accounts or ran away but other than that.........I believe much of this is not unheard of for teens in their late high school years.
Teens do drink and at least 'try' drugs. It is very easy access out there these days-probably easier than when your grown kids were this age. Here(college town)smoking pot and drinking are quite common.
I agree with picking one's battles.
I think at 18 you have to find that combination between relaxing the rules and expecting that they are going to test you a little bit.
As far as kids living on their "own",
I agree that the reality of having adult freedom isn't always what it was cracked up to be.
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