Don't Approve Of 15 Yr. Old Daughter's Boyfriend...HELP!

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Registered: 02-12-2007
Don't Approve Of 15 Yr. Old Daughter's Boyfriend...HELP!
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Tue, 02-28-2012 - 5:45am

I have written here before regarding my 15 year old daughter and some of the

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Registered: 02-12-2007

Just wanted to update. My husband found out late last night that our daughter has been texting her boyfriend all throughout the school day...NON-STOP! When she got her phone back after we took it away for a month, I had her sign a contract outlining our rules for it's usage.

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Registered: 11-01-2001

Don't make things all about the boyfriend.

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Registered: 02-12-2007

I don't know how NOT to make it all about the boyfriend when he is the center of all the problems we're having right now.

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Registered: 02-28-2012

Hi doxie64, I am new to this board too, but have been reading posts for awhile, becasue I have three teenagers.

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Registered: 02-14-2000

Hi and welcome to the board. I understand your urge to do your best to forbid any contact with this boy but that often times makes them more appealing. And unless she's strapped to you 24/7 where there's a will there's a way. Definitely if she mis-used the phone then she should lose that privilege for awhile. If she can't date for another 6 months or so you don't have too much to worry about as far as them going anywhere. And frankly - the older she gets and when she does start dating there will be fewer and fewer boys that haven't had sex. As far as the pot - he may or may not be lying about whether he smokes it anymore. He could have joined that page a couple years ago and never thought to un-join. My boys have both smoked it in the past (and no, I'm not happy about it). Neither does anymore but both are very vocal in thinking it should be legalized. But I digress... I think it was probably a good idea for him to block you on Facebook - sending him a message, IMO, is a little over the top. It's not all about the boy - as someone said, nobody can force your dd to make poor choices. She knows how you feel about him so I'd back off at this point. Hacking into her Facebook and reading their messages is just going to get you more angry. Now if feel that he's trying to get her to do something illegal then I think it's justifiable. But if it's the typical teen stuff I wouldn't make a habit of it. Good luck and keep us posted. These teen years are sure not for the faint of heart!

Pam
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Registered: 11-28-1999

OK, so you made this very clear rule that if DD texted during class you would take the cell phone away--she broke the rule and yet you didn't do what you said you'd do--you/or dad just blocked BF's number!

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Registered: 08-08-2009

I’m posting this here and on the other thread with a similar situation.

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Registered: 08-08-2009

These are a few more thoughts for consideration that I am posting on both of your threads.

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Registered: 10-16-1999

Well said Kimmy! All three of my sons have lost friends in Iraq or Afghanistan, I know several Gold Star Moms among my military mom friends. Sometimes we don't know how precious what we have is until we've lost it.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I have a friend from high school who lost her 15 yr old DD in a car accident last year and she is still devastated by that--and no drinking or speeding or anything like that was involved.

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