Mom of 15yr old MOUTH needing advice

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Mom of 15yr old MOUTH needing advice
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Sun, 12-25-2011 - 12:27pm

Hi.

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Mon, 12-26-2011 - 9:04pm

Ah, after hitting post, I noticed that you answered the questions about friends.

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Mon, 12-26-2011 - 8:57pm

OH!!!! WOW!!!! There are so many good postings above that I can’t think of much to add, except some application points.

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Registered: 10-18-2008
Mon, 12-26-2011 - 8:04pm

Hi, thanks for the reply.

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Registered: 10-18-2008
Mon, 12-26-2011 - 7:50pm

Thanks for the

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Mon, 12-26-2011 - 1:42pm

I'm parking my ditto with those who suspect Asperger's or another ASD. Sometimes, high functioning kids aren't diagnosed until adolescence, because they cope really well all through elementary school. But the food pickiness and the strong (and not entirely logical) sense of fairness are clues to this being about more than just adolescent behavior.

If your son is very literal, splits hairs over things that don't matter ("no, you picked me up at 8:03 when I asked to be picked up at 8"),and doesn't pick up social rules just by observing them, you might want to find a specialist who could really take a good look at him.

In our case, we found we didn't need special accommodations at school, but it has helped

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Mon, 12-26-2011 - 10:27am

You make some good points Sabr... though I think that OP has gotten herself into a mess by making everything negotiable.

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Mon, 12-26-2011 - 1:23am

I also agree something is amiss, if you still have to remind a 15yo to brush his teeth, etc.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 12-25-2011 - 6:10pm

Something does sound a little off here.

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Sun, 12-25-2011 - 2:06pm

Thanks for the reply.

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Sun, 12-25-2011 - 12:57pm
Welcome! To a certain extent this kind of behavior isn't unusual for this age, but this focus on making sense and fairness seems unusually back and white. Maybe a little OCD? Aspergers possibly? I only know two or three people who are this focused on fairness and making sense and they all were diagnosed with either Aspergers or mild autism. Has he been like this all his life, or most of it? A full medical and psych work up might be in order and give you direction in dealing with it. Hopefully your christmas has gotten better since this morning.

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