Need help with our 15 year old DD
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|Thu, 09-20-2012 - 12:12pm|
Hi. I'm Karen and new to the board but not Ivillage.
Our daughter was doing fine til she got into high school last year.
Over the last year we've noticed some changes in her. She started
wanting to wear mostly black clothing but not Goth type stuff.
She wanted to die her hair which I let her put some Sun In on it for a while.
She got bored with that and wanted it black. I told her no. She defied us and a few weeks later while at
a friends house the girls died DD's hair black. Trying to choose my fights I decided not
to push this one and thought she'd get bored with it as well.
Since then she's cut her hair shoulder length.
She gotten interested in wolves, vampires, and wants to watch horror movies
but I won't let her.
Sorry for the rambling btw....
I can't remember if it was this past June or in 2011 she went to a christian camp that she
goes to every year and when she came back she was listening to what she called "alternative
christian music". Sounded like an aweful rock band. So in a week or two we decided to see
what this new music was and looked it up. "Black Veil Brides"
Now after reading the lyrics to some of their songs they seem to be Satan worshipers and I
can't convince DD of this. (look them up and tell me what you think) Most of their songs seem
to talk about death, killing ones self, and "Black Veil Brides" are Satans brides.
Also, she started liking this boy at school last year then he moved to Arkansas. We've found out
that the boy smokes pot and cusses. Found DD has picked up the swearing habit in her emails
where she thinks we don't know. Probably around her "friends" too.
We are so afraid she's going to end up on drugs or pregnant. All kinds of things are running through my mind.
She was talking to someone by email and asked how far they think she'd get to Arkansas before the police picked her up
if she ran away.
Should I/we confront her with everything we know she's doing?
Or just try to keep her busy and get her mind off of doing these things and
hope they go away?
Both my husband's mom and my own passed away in the last year so we are
just lost as how to handle DD and no one to turn to for help.
Thanks for any advice you can offer.