New to the board and need help!!!!

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Registered: 09-15-2011
New to the board and need help!!!!
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Thu, 09-15-2011 - 7:01pm

Where do I start?

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Fri, 09-16-2011 - 10:53pm

Another thought came to me.

Since he is into condoms, that is a natural opening to have THE TALK with him about sex, if you have not had it.

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Fri, 09-16-2011 - 10:24pm

Yeah, go to classes with him.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 09-16-2011 - 12:03pm

Obviously everybody is under a lot of stress but the adults have to take control of the situation so stop yelling & start talking.

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Registered: 03-09-2009
Fri, 09-16-2011 - 8:42am
My first thought was that you should tell your son that if he doesn't stop getting into trouble that you'll be forced to supervise him directly while he's on school property (i.e., sit with him in class, accompany him while he switches classes, sit with him at lunch, and so on). It wouldn't be an easy measure, but I think that it would very quickly cut that behaviour right out. Possibly, if he thought you meant it, only the threat of doing this might make a big difference.

I disagree with your husband about cutting sports. I think that sports or arts should be the last thing taken away from kids. They need an outlet for stress and their emotions and these kinds of activities/hobbies are perfect for that.

It's my belief that many kids who try to be class clown do so because they are insecure about their ability to gain acceptance and praise from their peers in other more positive ways. Additionally, your description of the screaming and yelling in your home leads me to wonder how stressful your son's home life is for him. I wouldn't take away his sports as it's a positive way for him to get rid of stress and it's a positive way of gaining acceptance and praise from his peers.

I realize that he needs to feel the consequences of his behaviours at school, but I feel that taking away his sports would be throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Find another way of punishing him.

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Fri, 09-16-2011 - 12:16am

A few questions I would have are: What brand of condoms? Had it been used?

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Thu, 09-15-2011 - 8:33pm

Your description of your son makes him the poster child of BiPolar Disorder, ADD and/or Executive Dysfunction.