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|Tue, 06-28-2011 - 4:48am|
Hi, this is my first ever time here…I just don't know what to do anymore. It's a long one, sorry! I have 3 teens, and my middle daughter (16) has in the last year changed from a sweet, home loving girl to someone I don't recognise. She's always been feisty, but that was Ok I could handle that. In the last few months she has started partying, drinking too much, smoking dope, lying to me, lazy at school, the works. She has a boyfriend of 3 weeks that she had been chasing for 6 months and was so depressed because he didn't want to know. Now she has him she is getting off with other guys behind his back, yet claims she loves him. Matters came to a head last weekend when she went to a party, got off her face and ended up with a friend of her older brother, my 18 year old son. When my son caught them together (he was drunk) there was a fight, and the result is my son has broken his knuckles. He's a guitarist and is now unable to play for months, perhaps longer and has cancelled gigs for the whole summer.
I am angry he got into a fight, yet I feel he did the right thing to defend his drunk sister and I am devastated about his injury. My son went to A&E yesterday and they tell him it could mean he will have trouble ever playing again.When I confronted my daughter (I had been lied to earlier about how he hurt his hand) she crumbled, told me how much she hated herself and wanted to die. Her sadd-o of a boyfriend was upstairs and I told her to tell him. She did and he says he still loves her and wants to be with her, despite this is the second time he knows about her cheating on him.
I just want the bf to go home (he's not getting picked up till tomorrow) and to sit down with my depressed and trouble children and try and sort this all out.