should my teen finish school?

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should my teen finish school?
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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 11:14am

I have had a problem with my daughter for about 4 years now with truancy issues.

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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 12:17pm
I forgot to mention that I voiced these thoughts to her principal many times since nothing seemed to get my daughter's attention and the principlal was offended that I want her to quit. I explained that the costs outweighs the reward in this case and I just can't keep watching her fines increasing for a diploma that won't do her any good in jail.
My daughter got a part time job and goes in on time so she isn't hopeless. I do want her to quit this school and get a ged or try online school, but my daughter won't agree to any of it.
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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 12:27pm

Your daughter does not need a car to go to community college, or get a job.

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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 12:59pm
Thanks for replying, she doesn't have any learning problems she has already passed the exit exams to graduate but still has afew months to go. I have been to court so much and changed my life around for her to go to school and I'm sick of working nights so she can have a ride (no buses where we live).
Our area is so spread out that you can't get around without driving. I'm her only family that can help her out.
She doesn't care about doing her community service hours or going to school, she's always late and I don't mean a few minutes (sometimes 2 hours). But, I see your point its her decision to stay in school. I am planning to move out of state and she'll have to figure it out.
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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 1:29pm
I agree with you in that if the dd wants to go get her diploma the OP should do everything she can to help her. I do have to disagree with you in that a car isn't necessary for community college. I know you live in a more urban/suburban area but where I live - in a subdivision outside a small village downstate - there is no public transportation. The community college is about 8-10 miles away, too far to walk. The closest gas station/dollar store is 3 miles away so in our area a car is more than a luxury.
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Registered: 12-03-1999
Sun, 01-29-2012 - 2:07pm

Ok, there are areas where transportation other than a car is not available.

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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 5:05pm

It sounds as though mom is burned out in a big way.

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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 6:26pm
My daughter is healthy and can walk but she won't even walk to get the mail so I doubt that walking to work or school will happen. Yes, I am tired of the problems and tired of begging her to go to school. I am moving soon out of state and my daughter wants to live somewhere else in the same state. My oldest daughter lives out of state as well, and wants her to move closer but she doesn't want to. I am a single parent and have been her only parent her whole life, dad has never done anything to help and his family either. So, I am bitter, and thanks for the help it is greatly appreciated. Most of my friends see my side but its interesting to see other people's points of view. However, I've bent over backwards to help her be happy about going to school; I think she wants the diploma but doesn't want to put the effort into getting it. .
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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 8:43pm

Well it seems there is a big disconnection here between what she says (wanting to graduate) and what she actually does (go to school, do the community service).

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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 10:42pm

Never had to deal with this, but this is what I think.

You, like most every parent, would crawl on broken glass, walk barefoot on hot coals, lick toilet seats down at the Greyhound bus station, if it would help your child.

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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 11:26pm

I thought a little more about what I said above and that it might seem harsh or judgmental.

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