Teen is convinced she's ugly, hides all the time in her room
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|Thu, 07-07-2011 - 3:05pm|
My lifelong best friend has a 17-year-old daughter "Phoebe", who I've loved like my own since she was in utero. Over the past year or so, she's become more and more reclusive, not wanting to come out of her room. She'll stay in there literally for days. When she does come out, she always wears a hat and baggy clothes. All she says--when she talks to us at all, which is rare--is that she's ugly ("the shape of my head is hideous", "my nose is ugly", "I have to keep my arms covered", etc.) She says she hates being looked at. The truth is, Phoebe is a stunningly beautiful, tall, willowy, athletic, lovely young woman.
I know there's no point in arguing. I can't make her feel beautiful just by telling her she is. But now that she's finished high school, the problem is just getting wose and worse. She seems to feel she's the Elephant Man.
Phoebe has an older sister, Camille, who does not resemble her at all, and who has done professional modelling occasionally. Camille is gorgeous, and