Teen cutting?
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Teen cutting?
| Sat, 12-22-2012 - 9:25pm |
Anyone have any info on 15 yo teenager cutting themselves? Just recently started this and they don't know I know yet. Wondering the best way to approach this and not make matters worse. I know it started over a boyfriend breaking up with her and she still has feelings for him. Any info appreciated on this or where to look for advice. Thank you.
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Hi and welcome to the board. I don't have first hand experience with cutting but I know of several class mates of my boys (now 22 and 25) did it. My older ds did suffer from anorexia for several years, which is also an emotional disorder. I think you should be up front with your dd and let her know you know that she's cutting. Probably telling her to stop isn't going to work any more than us telling our ds just to eat more worked. She probably could benefit from talking to a counselor about healthy ways to recover from a break up/disappointment/etc. She'll likely face several such events in her life. Good luck and keep us posted.
Welcome to our corner of the village and gentle hugs to you.
I have no BTDT experience, but I think for starters I would call the HS counseling office for advice on the subject and what services they may know of. Also, because I and my daughters have a very special relationship with our female OBgyn I would call her or her main nurse for advice on where to go.
Hubby and I live with our daughters and SILs who are late 19 and 20 year olds. What we thought was puppy love was absolutely serious to these little puppies five years ago and thankfully still is. And I have no clue as to exactly why these two couples bonded, but they did.
However, most teen romances don’t go the distance and some of us, LIKE ME, really do damage to themselves trying to compensate for the failures. My “cutting” was being promiscuous and I have lots of physical and emotional scars to show for it.
When I think of these types of situations, I think of Garth Brooks’ signature song UNANSWERED PRAYERS. (You can Google up the lyrics.) It is the story of a guy who runs into his old high school sweetheart at a hometown football game and as the two couples are talking he can’t help but remember how he once prayed that GOD would grant him this one prayer: That this flame would be his for all time. However, she was not the angel he remembered, and he could tell that he had lost stature in her eyes also. And looking at his wife that’s when he thanked GOD for unanswered prayers.
It is very difficult for teens to comprehend that they may not meet the “right person” for another five, ten, or fifteen years. That is like forever away to them. And from experience, I can tell you the pain of a teen breakup can be unbearable. I would try to help her to understand that like the guy in the song, when she finds the “right guy” she is going to be so grateful that this guy and she broke up. And no guy is ever worth hurting yourself over.
I hope this ramble of mine is of some help.