What next? I need a new plan
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|Mon, 01-09-2012 - 8:12am|
I wrote last week about my 16 y o daughter who has lied about her whereabouts, stayed away for a night and generally has created havoc with verbal abuse and risky behaviors. We had a counseling session that seemed to go ok on Friday with maybe a bit of progress but then she didn't come home after school on Friday right away even though she is grounded and yesterday she was back at my throat yelling and harassing me about how I have grounded her and how she will just leave when she wants. By locking herself in her bedroom, she had made it impossible for a real discussion about consequences and what is needed to make amends so I hadn't told her yet how long she is grounded for and how long her cell phone will be shut off. When she started screaming yesterday I told her I wouldn't talk to her unless we could have a calm discussion but that every time she doesn't come home right away from school and breaks the grounding rule, the sentence becomes longer.
I involved the school last week when she had talked about wanting to die. They did an evaluation and said she was just saying it out of anger. She was even more angry with me because of that because it embarrassed her at school.
I feel like this is a war and I just want it to end. I am deeply sad that my daughter says the things she does to me like "you're a psycho b" "this place is a s***hole" and "you are the worst mother in the whole F'ing world and I hate you"