6 yr old being too open?

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Registered: 01-01-2008
6 yr old being too open?
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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 4:57pm

Okay, I was here a while ago about my 6 yr old and we've started therapy and I think it's going well. I am also in therapy, but it's hard for me to be open. But she loves and I love it for her because she's more open with me. Sometimes too open.


When she was younger she told everything and most kids do....she would tell things that happened at home with her father and myself. He was abusive. Kids can hear what goes on because he's never done anything to me in front of her.


But when I took her places she would tell family and friends that her dad hits me. So I know that it's going to come out in therapy, but outside of therapy she's being a little too open with people.


I made friends with a lady who is in her mid 30's and her husband is abusive. So we clicked, however her kids are older. Her 14 yr old talks to me indirectly so it makes everything complicated. But I paid her to keep my daughter and when I picked her up, the 14 yr old says, 'Now I know why you and my mom hit it off' and I asked her what she meant and she was like your daughter told me....and I cut her off. But I knew what it was.


That Sunday we were invited to dinner and it was just me and my daughter and my friend's family. We were talking and I was asked about her dad by my friend's husband and my kid blurts out, 'we left him because he hits'


What do I say to her? I don't want her to tell the nation, but she's being honest. Sometimes I feel stuck because I want her to be open and honest, but at the same time she tells everything and she asks questions that I am unsure whether or not I should answer. What don't you answer?

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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 3:04pm

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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 3:16pm
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