6yro son interest in girl's clothing.

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6yro son interest in girl's clothing.
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Fri, 01-29-2010 - 8:47am

Hello All: I'm the mother of a six year old boy. I'm concerned about the recent behavior shown by my son. The other day we were at the local mall, I was there to buy him some new jeans and underwear. While I was going over the boy's underwear, I saw that he had wondered over to the girl's underwear counter and was looking at the different panties on display. He came over to me and asked if he could have some of the girl's underwear (panties) too. I was a bit taken, to say the least, and afraid he would create a scene in front of the sales lady, who didn't help matters, by saying, "Oh isn't that sweet." So right or wrong, I went over and select a half dozen pairs to take home. Do you feel this is a sign that my son may be feminine? Should I have just ignored him? He has insisted on wearing the girls underwear each day. I will not allow him to wear them during his school time. I tried sitting down with him and explaining that boys didn't wear girls things, but then I get a look that would break my heart at other times. I would appreciate any suggestions or advise you may have. Thanks


JoAnne

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Mon, 02-01-2010 - 11:24am

Hi JoAnne, welcome to the board!

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 4:02pm

Hello Melissa, Thank you for your reply. So far nothing has changed. My son is wearing what I bought him, doesn't mention it at all. Yes, I've had a talk with him, asked him why the girls underwear, all he say's is,

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Registered: 04-02-2008
Mon, 02-01-2010 - 4:18pm

I'm wondering if maybe he doesn't like the style of underwear he currently has?

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Tue, 02-02-2010 - 3:16pm

Hi Joanne,


Welcome to the board!

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Tue, 02-02-2010 - 7:25pm
Sorry for the hat to your cl, but wanted to post this quickly and head offline.
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Tue, 02-02-2010 - 7:39pm

Hi JoAnne! I think you've handled it beautifully. I also think that if you had "put your foot down" that it wouldn't just be forgotten, just my humble opinion. My only advice would be to seek the opinion of your pediatrician. As many kids as they see, one surely has had this situation arise in their years of experience and could possibly help you understand what's going through his mind. Perhaps the girls underwear are just a better fit since the cut is different?





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Registered: 02-17-2010
Wed, 02-17-2010 - 12:00pm

Dear JoAnne,


I feel your concern.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 9:01am

I'd first like to thank everyone for your advise, and encouragement. I'm sorry I have not been online for awhile, I'm from Maryland and we had a record 54 inches of snow in the past week!! I cannot wait for spring!!


I'm afraid not much progress has been made with my son, he still insists on wearing the panties each day when he returns home from school. All his other clothes that he wears with his panties, are strictly boys, jeans, flannel shirts, sneakers, etc..The panties are a mix of plan nylon briefs and some cotton briefs..some are brightly colored, some are pastels, none have the figures on them.


My next door neighbor who has a daughter, tells me to ignore it, easy for her to say with a daughter!! I get tempted to just take them away, and deal with it myself. I know it is a ways off, but what about if this keeps up when he reaches puberty, then what??


I did make a special appointment with my own doctor, she has been my doctor for years. On the phone I gave her a little about why I wanted to see her. I asked her if I should bring my son with me, and she said no, it would be better to talk alone. Basically all she said was that I was getting upset over nothing, that lots of young boys do the same thing. I was wondering to myself, if the mother's of those boy's did what I did and bought them girls panties to wear..I kind of doubt it. She said just keep an eye on him, allow him to wear what he wanted, and if it kept up when he got older, to approach him once more about the subject. I asked her what I should do when the panties he had got old and worn out, she said buy him some new ones, and don't even mention it to him. I just don't understand all of this...I'm sorry, I just don't.


JoAnne

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Registered: 04-02-2008
Mon, 02-22-2010 - 8:18pm

I would be just as confused as you are.

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