7 year old dying hair?

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7 year old dying hair?
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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 2:59pm
Hello everyone
My 7 and 5 year old step-daughters told us that they want to get highlights in their hair. Their Aunt (who is a hairstylist) told them that she would put highlights in their hair if they got permission. Dad says he doesn't care, and I think they're too young to be dying their hair. Am I being too old-fashioned about this?
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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 8:19pm

I don't think it's a matter of being "old fashioned." I think it's about having standards for your family and sticking to them in the face of pressure from those who disagree with you.

If you feel your kids are too young, then it doesn't matter if their aunt wants to do it for them, you and their dad are the parents and it's up to you to set boundaries.

Personally, I wouldn't do it. It's slippery slope and as I've said in another post, our children are pressured to grow up way too quickly today. I'm all for letting them be kids for as long as possible. When my oldest DD was in 4th grade I went on a fieldtrip with her class and was absolutely SHOCKED when one of her classmates pulled out a compact and proceeded to apply foundation. The next year (5th grade!) another of DD's friends invited DD to the nail salon to have acrylic nails put on (the mom was giving it to her DD for her b'day.) I said no.

Sexualizing kids at such a young age is NOT a good thing.

I feel very strongly about this, as you can see, but it is JMO.

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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 10:51pm
The only way I'd do that is if it was a purple or pink wash out color (fun looking)

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Tue, 12-19-2006 - 8:38am
Thank you both! I feel the exact same as you both described and it helped to remember the reasons WHY I don't agree with letting them do certain things.
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Tue, 12-19-2006 - 10:08pm
I agree with you that they are too young. I have a 12 year old stepdaughter that wants her hair highlighted and we are just now agreeing to it after 3 years of her asking. I dont think its necessary to put chemicals in their hair this young. I hope this helps. Good luck, girls are sooo hard!!!
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Tue, 12-19-2006 - 10:36pm

I for one do not think you are being too old fashioned I think they are way to young to be putting highlights/dying their hair.

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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 2:07pm
Personally, I wouldn't let my daughter get hilghlights until...college? LOL Seriously though, IMO they're kids, and shouldn't look like teens yet. (don't even get me started on the fashions these days @@) It makes them look older, which could mean trouble in the future possibly. My dd has long curly blonde hair, and I'm sure I'll be beating the boys off with a stcik soon enough LOL