7yo boy woes
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|Thu, 06-28-2007 - 3:25pm|
Hey all, this is my first time posting over on this board. To give you a bit of background, I have a 7 year old son, a 2 1/2 year old daughter, and a unknown gendered baby coming up in the middle of September.
My son has been a constant worry to my husband and I for quite some time now. I have this feeling that something has to be wrong with him, but I don't know what. He is quite intelligent in reading and math (reading books intended for 9-12 year olds, and doing some 2nd and 3rd grade math), but is absolutely horrible in anything that requires physical activity, writing, art, and so forth.
His writing improved a little bit during 1st grade, but it's still very hard to read a lot of his letters, and it's extremely sloppy. He completely refused to do any push-ups for gym class (he is excited to do those at home if someone mentions them though!), and technically failed 1st grade gym because of this. He is absolutely uncreative and will only draw pictures if someone tells him what to draw and where to draw it, and will only write things if given a topic and told what is expected about that topic. If you ask him to draw or write something on his own, he'll stare at the paper and just walk away (or scribble before walking away).
His playing mannerisms are very odd when I compare it to what I've seen in children his age, a bit older, and younger. Most of the time, he would rather sit somewhere and watch whatever my husband and I, and sometimes even his sister, are doing. If we ask him to find something to do, he'll pick up a toy and just turn it over and over. He has TONS of toys, art stuff, board games, etc etc, so it's not like there's nothing to do! We do limit both of their TV intake (usually only 1-3 hours/day max, sometimes an extra movie before bed, too), and limit their exposure to electronic toys (ie: gamecube, leapster, etc).
The big reason we limit our children so much is because of my son. If you let him play the GameCube, for example, and don't tell him what time he is to be done with it, he will literally sit there for 12+ hours, without eating if not forced to, not using the bathroom (has even soiled himself a couple years back due to this) unless reminded, not getting up to walk around, not noticing if someone gets injured unless they fall on them (and then we're lucky if he'd do more than just push them off if that were the case)... basically, completely oblivious of the world around him, and even of his own bodily needs. The same happens while watching TV, playing the Leapster, playing on the computer, etc. If my husband or I play a computer game, he will be absolutely glued to watching it, and make every excuse to stick around. The only time he's interested in conventional toys is if he thinks it'll earn him extra TV/gaming time.
Am I describing normal behavior for some 7yos? I honestly cannot think of any other children that are completely uncreative and only care about electronic stimulation. Am I worrying too much, or is this something I should bring up to a doctor? We've tried letting him have free reign (allowed to game and watch TV whenever he wanted) in order to see if it burned that desire out of him, but it didn't work--he'd eat breakfast, play until we forced him to go eat lunch, then play until we forced him to eat his dinner, and we had to keep asking if he needed to go to the bathroom whenever we saw him start grabbing that area to hold it in. After a few weeks of that (late Dec/early Jan was the most recent attempt) we gave up.
If you got this far, thanks for reading. :) Any input would be appreciated!