7yo & tantrums-long vent-advice please!
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|Fri, 08-31-2007 - 10:31am|
I need help! Our day started to go downhill @ breakfast. First, a little background. Every morning, I set the timer for 20 minutes when DD sits down to eat her bowl of cereal (which I believe is plenty of time). We use this as a way to pace her so she knows how much time until she has to get up & brush her teeth & get ready to get on the bus. (We use the timer b/c she often has a problem pacing herself-not just @ home, last year @ school as well). When the timer goes off, whether she's finished or not, she has to get up from the table and finish getting ready for school. No bargaining, no whining. Usually she's done with time to spare. This morning, she just sat there, not really eating much. I gave her warnings @ 10, 5, & 3 minutes that the timer was going to go off. Still, she really didn't eat a whole lot. So when the timer went off, DH went in and told her to get up. She started having a total meltdown! This escalated into a full blown tantrum--throwing herself on the floor, screaming at the top of her lungs, jumping up & down, etc. (Who knows what happened after she got to school-may have told the teacher we don't feed her!)
She seems to be doing this every time she doesn't get her way about simple things--like going in to brush her teeth by herself, getting her pj's from her room, picking up her toys. It's about to drive DH & me CRAZY! We've tried timeouts, groundings, taking away toys, even resorted to a few swats on the tail. Nothing seems to work.
Most of the time she's a very sweet, loving girl & does well in school. I'm @ my wits end.
Most of the time we're a pretty easy going family. That's probably part of the problem--we've been pretty overprotective of her & I'll admit, she's somewhat spoiled.
When we ask her what's wrong, she says we're mean, hate her, are ruining her life. (Sounds like a teenager, huh? lol) If anyone has read this whole vent & can impart any advice (before her screaming gets us kicked out of our apartment or a visit from the authorities), I'd be grateful.