Am I being too lenient with my 7 y.o?

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Registered: 02-28-2012
Am I being too lenient with my 7 y.o?
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 6:08pm
My son is constantly getting in trouble at school for not paying attention, not following directions and wrestling in school, I have taken toys, fun weekend activities, and t.v. Away from him..everything short of spanking him. We talk to him all the time about his behavior and we have been struggling with him lying about EVERYTHING! I'm out of patience, I'm tired of being nice, I'm tired of talking until I'm blue in the face..when is enough enough and you start spanking?
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Registered: 07-24-1997
Tue, 03-06-2012 - 5:43pm

I cannot imagine what you think spanking is going to accomplish.

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Registered: 12-06-1999
Wed, 03-07-2012 - 9:52pm
Spanking is never really the answer. What are his classroom consequences? Is there something at home that can be taken away that is really important. You might want to talk to the school counselor to get some direction.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 3:47pm

First of all I think it's much more difficult for young boys to be able to sit still in school all day than it is for girls.

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 6:05pm

i agree with musiclover- I think it's important to find out the cause of the behavior and an appt with the school counselor would be a great starting place. They can test for a range of things from giftedness (which would cause boredom and acting out) to a learning disability, to ADHD.

Hang in there and please keep us updated!