Another Parent Yelled At My Son
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|Fri, 10-26-2007 - 10:47am|
Something happened at my son's bus stop yesterday morning. First, a little background info. My son si 7 and will be turning 8 in December. He's in the 2nd grade. He has two older brothers, ages 15 and 11. Tanner plays with another 7 yr old and a 6 yr old boy who live 2 streets over from us and they ride the same school bus. Tanner weighs about 125 lbs and is big for his age. One morning, the 6 yr old hit Tanner with his lunch box and Tanner hit him in his stomach. Tanner came back home after the 6 yr old ran home and his mom came out to the bus stop and yelled at my son. My son missed the bus, but before I drove him to school, I went to the 6 yr old's house. The lights were on and there car was there but noone came to the door after knocking for about 5 minutes. I went there to tell the mom to not yell at my son like she did. Well, I took Tanner to school and noticed her car was gone went I got back home. I didn't pursue that any further. That is some background on that kid and Tanner. My biggest problem is with Zach, the other 7 year old. During the summer, there was an incident where Tanner kicked Zach between the legs. Zach's mom came to the house and yelled at Tanner about it. After she left, Tanner said he did that after Zach laughed at him for falling off a slide. Another incident, Tanner came home to tell him that Zach's mom yelled at him for chasing Zach. Well, I started walking over to their street when she was walking toward my street. We met in the middle and she started yelling about how she's tired of Tanner bullying her son and for Tanner to pick on someone his own size. Zach is very small and about a head and a half shorter than Tanner. Zach is known to taunt Tanner and then run. So Tanner chases him saying he's gonna beat him up. Whew! Now, for the REAL reason I'm writing today for opinions, help, etc. Yesterday morning at the bus stop Zach was teasing Tanner about being fat to that 6 yr old. Tanner started chasing Zach and Zach ran home and his dad went to the bus stop. Tanner said he put his face real close to his telling Tanner he better leave Zach alone and even used the "F" word. Tanner told his dad and I about this last night which enraged me. One thing the dad said was ,"If you don't understand, I'll make you understand". To me, that is a threat. Well, this dad walks all the time, so my hubby went out to see if he could see him. He ended up walking all the way to his house but noone was home. My husband was livid. He is going to confront this man, but not at his house - he's gonna "catch" him out walking. This man is supposedly disabled, does not work for some reason. Zach is the youngest of 4 children. The oldest daughter is a senior in high school, pregnant, married and they live with her mom and dad. Has anyone had another parent yell at their child like this and how did you handle it? Or, please give me your opinion on how you would handle this.
As we all know, kids will be kids, but I'm getting tired of these parents viewing my child as a bully. Tanner is not one to come crying to me about things. He always takes care of it himself. Zach is a whiner and always runs home to mommy and daddy. If Tanner hits a child first, I feel that child should hit him back. But if another child hits Tanner first and then Tanner hits back, they run home.
Thanks for reading this.