Anyone else's 1st grader...

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Anyone else's 1st grader...
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Fri, 09-08-2006 - 11:39pm

having a tough time adjusting this year? My dd is really having a rough time of it. She doesn't want me to leave in the morning when I drop her off at school - tears and all. There's nothing going on in the classroom. I've checked with her teacher and with her. She really enjoys school once she gets rolling. I helped with lunch today and I literally had to pry her off my leg when it was time for her to go out for recess and me to go home. She was away from me all day two days/week last year and was in preschool for two years before that so I didn't think this transition would be difficult. Threw me for a loop...

I read alot of the "going to school for the first time" books to her before preschool and kindergarten so I don't think that will help. Maybe returning to them would be familiar and comforting. I'm stumped. I didn't mind the tears and parting when she was younger but now it's tearing me apart. Today she brought home some school work and one of the projects was a fill in the blank "In first grade I want to learn..." and she completed the sentence with "to make friends". The funny thing about this is that she's always been quite the social butterfly - made friends easily, received great comments from teachers about her social skills, etc. We can't go anywhere without running into someone she knows - mall, grocery store, hardware store, rec center, park, pool, etc. Anyone have any ideas?

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Sat, 09-09-2006 - 12:04am

You know, Aubrey had the same thing happen today. This is the second week of school.. she's been fine walking to school every day (it's right behind our house- I can watch her from my deck) but this morning she started getting all teary and when I asked what was wrong she started crying and saying that she missed me. :o(

I ended up driving her and dropping her off and I thought she was ok then but she told me when she got home she still had some tears and her teacher gave her a hug.

I felt soo sad.. to make it worse, when I was piling kids in the car I was grouchy because I had to wake my 2 year old up and the baby had just pooped so I wasn't able to change him and the first bell rang.. I told her in a snappy way that I hope we made it on time. I really hurt her feelings.. :o( I appologised and told her the bell didn't matter (if she's late she has to stay in for recess- that was my concern, I know how much she needs the break).

Has she been doing it every day?

I happened to go to my baby's 6 month appointment on Aubrey's first day of school (first grade- she's 6 1/2) and the Ped. mentioned that the first month of first grade is really hard on kids.. and to expect them to be very emotional, grouchy, etc. during that time.

HTH!

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sat, 09-09-2006 - 10:00am

Thanks!! I feel much better. She was fine the first week and 2 days. Starting last Wednesday she was very upset when I dropped her off. This morning dh and I had to "divide and conquer" activities. He's taking her and I'm taking my ds. She was a little upset that I wasn't going to be with her. I think she really misses the one on one time. I'll have to make an extra effort to spend time with her over the next several weeks. I need it ust as much as she does!!! It was very reassuring to hear what your pediatrician had to say. At least that explains some of what is going on and I know it's fairly normal.

Happy First Grade Aubrey!

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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 3:30pm

Tre started third grade this year and he STILL gets teary-eyed. HE says he misses me. I think its just a matter of transition, really. Each grade tries to prepare kids fo rht enext and I think sometimes its overdone. It causes unneccessary worry.


Anyway, lol, I just wanted you to know it still happens to me, too. Have you read the book The Kissing Hand? It's beautiful and I bet seh'll love it!


Good luck this week! Let us know when it gets easier.

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Tue, 09-12-2006 - 2:21pm
hello...my first grader didnt do this-she seems nervous in the morning, but she hasnt had any problems-unless you count the other night-thursday night. she kept saying she was nervous and scared...and she didnt want to go to school the next day-but i think part of it may have been an act-mainly cuz she was getting mouthy and i think she thought if she says shes nervous about school, we'll feel sorry for her and let her act anyway she wants(sometimes shes too smart for her own good). she hasnt had a problem since and hasnt mentioned being nervous since. now, when i was in first grade, i did the same thing your dd does-tears, clinging to my mom, the whole bit. my mom did a few things that worked-first she had a chart and i had to bring home a daily note from the teacher-if i was good, i got a star on the chart (and a sticker from my teacher :-) ). once the week was filled with stars, i got a small present-once i got a month filled, i got a bigger present...when i got 2 monthes filled with stars-i got this she-ra figure i had wanted for monthes-lol. but it worked. besides that, my mom got a job as a noon aide at the school and even though we were on different playgrounds, every day, she would come over to the corner and wave. shed wave for almost a minute straight and then go back to work. at first i was by myself-pretty soon a couple of girls from my class would wait with me to see my mom and they would wave too...good luck-hopefully time and routine will help too...
JOANNE
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Tue, 09-12-2006 - 2:25pm

Anyway, lol, I just wanted you to know it still happens to me, too. Have you read the book The Kissing Hand? It's beautiful and I bet seh'll love it!

hello-i just wanted to say-they read this story the first day of school in my dds class-she said she loved it...its a cute story and it helps out the kids...take care!!
JOANNE
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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 1:45pm
There's a sequel to it but I can't remember it....I'llhave to research that one for you. Its cute, too!

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Fri, 09-29-2006 - 7:19pm
My ds had a little problem adjusting but now he's fine. I think it's becuase they are so use to K and 1st grade is a lot harder (for my ds anyways) and he has a ton of home work. I think things will get eaiser

 

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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 12:52am

Thanks for your support everyone!! She seems to be just fine now. She'll start into the building and run back and give me one more hug but that's it. We've had a few hasty send offs which I regret but I thinks she's doing well. It's helpful to know her experience isn't unusual. My older one never really had any adjustment issues so I wasn't sure.

Here's to a great year for all!!!

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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 3:05pm
YAY!!! What great news! GOod for you!!

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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 3:06pm
Johanna! OMGoodness look at Mallory!!! SHe's growing so fast! WOW! What a cutie!

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