Bathroom breaks at your school

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Bathroom breaks at your school
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Mon, 11-05-2007 - 9:40am

Hi all. I would really appreciate it if you could tell me how your schools handle bathroom breaks for K-2. DS (7 and in 1st grade) had two accidents during the first two weeks of school (this kid hasn't had a daytime accident since he was potty trained at around 3 1/2; he occasionally wets the bed at night, usually when he falls asleep very early and is very tired). When I asked him about this he said that he was afraid to go to the bathroom because he didn't know if he could find his way back to the bathroom (in K they had a bathroom in their classroom). I found out from another mom that her son is holding his pee in all day because he has the same fear.

Now, personally I think that they are too young to be going to the bathroom alone. They are not the only ones using this bathroom. There are 5th and 6th grade classrooms on the first floor. Also, the bathroom that is closest to his classroom is right across from the main door to the school. Anyone could walk in and go right into that bathroom (the school has a buzzer system, but once you enter the building you could slip in there). I am going to write a letter to the principal about this. I think they should at least be going in pairs, for safety reasons, if not to just make them feel more comfortable. But I wanted to get other parents' input. I asked my SIL who is the head of the PTA in another district and she says that up until 2nd grade in her school, the teacher takes the whole class, once in the morning and once in the afternoon.

In my son's class, each child has two bathroom passes and two water fountain passes (one for the am and one for the pm) and they get to decide when they have to go. The only problem is, there are certain times they can't go such as when they have rug time (which is apparently when they are being taught a new lesson) and when they are getting ready to go to their special. I think this is too much responsibility for them, since they are expected to know "I should go the BR now, because we have rug time in five minutes and I won't be able to go then".

Thanks for all who waded through this long-winded post.

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Registered: 09-27-2005
Wed, 11-07-2007 - 10:02am

i had this problem with devon last year at his first school (he was in K) the teacher sat at her desk all day. she did not get up at all. so the kids were responsible for going to the bathroom when they wanted but like you NOT during certain times. devon started having accidents in his pants alot. he would tell me he was scared to go to the bathroom, and that was thhat. i couldnt figure out why he was so scared. well so i dropped in a few times and figured it outthe teacher because she sat at her desk all day would just yell and scream at the kids i do not think i ever heard her not yelling at them. while i was there one little boy asked to go to the bathroom he said he had to go now or he was gonna pee in his pants. she told him you only have an hour left of school just hold it. well this kid also has about a 45 minute bus ride before he gets home so that would have been 2 hours that he was holding it. and sure enough 15 minutes later he pee'd all over the place. it was horrible. this was one reason devon transfered to a new school. there was a few other problams i had with this teacher also but we wont go into it.


i think you should call your principal and have a talk with them about it hopefully they can figure something else out about your problam

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Wed, 11-07-2007 - 2:01pm
Thanks for your input. I already emailed the principal with my concerns. He seems to have gotten over his fear of getting lost and hasn't had an accident since the first week of school, but I still think they are too young to be going to the bathroom alone. If the bathroom near his class is out of order, he has to go to the other end of the school to find another one.