Birthday party etiquette

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Birthday party etiquette
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Wed, 04-22-2009 - 1:41pm

Okay, so my DS3 (6 and in kindy) went to a b'day party at a karate place last weekend. There were quite a lot of boys (at least 15). Some of the parents had brought other children, but kept them in the party room with the adults (there were seats and a window to watch through, and food and drinks for us) and some parents dropped off. One dad brought the younger brother and encouraged him to join the party. Some of the other moms were mentioning that this couple does this at every party, brings the younger one and lets him join even though he was not invited. I know parties can get pretty expensive, especially if you have to pay per child. So here's my question

Have you experienced this at a party you have thrown or one that you have been to? Do you do thinks this is okay or out of line? How would you handle it if it were at a party thrown by you?

I've had parents bring sibs to some of my kids parties, but they have never asked if they could join in. I have always offered them food and cake, etc, when everyone was eating.

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Thu, 04-23-2009 - 12:42pm
Yes, I did have this happen. Last year I had DD's party, when she was in kindy, at a place that you had to pay per child. She invtied her Girl Scout troop, and then a couple kids from class. I knew all the Girl Scout Mom's & we all know about the paying per kid thing, and dont' bring sibs. However one child in her class came with her sister. They both particiapated in everything, which meant I had to pay for her. It never crossed my mind to say no tag-a-longs, since amoung our group we all know that it isn't something you do. I didn't say anything, but I was annoyed. This year her party is again at a place that we will pay per child, and I plan to put a little sticker on the invites say you must RSVP, and no tag-a-longs, as she is inviting 6 kids from class & I do not know their parents.


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Sat, 04-25-2009 - 10:53am

We have put that is you want to bring a sibling - it will cost you $$ at the door.

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Mon, 04-27-2009 - 1:28pm
My neighbor threw her daughter's bday party at the mall last year. The girls got their hair and nails done and then she and her hubby took the girls to the food court for a meal. The invite apparently told the parents to pick the girls up there. Well, two parents acutally left their younger daughters with the party, so my friend ended up paying for them. Then, when she got to the food court, her DH had set up two tables for the girls (I think there were about 12-15 girls) and had gotten juice boxes and water for them. Well three sets of parents were already there (the two who left younger kids at the party and another one). All three had brought the rest of the family (dad, brothers adn one even brought a grandparent). They proceeded to help themselves to the drinks that were for the party and, as a result, they ran out of drinks and had to buy more. Are people really that clueless, or do they feel entitled? My friend (who is very soft-spoken and would not say boo to anyone) finally had to speak up when they went for a second round of drinks!!
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Tue, 04-28-2009 - 10:22am

I think it's completely wrong and rude to take siblings to a birthday party!

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Tue, 06-02-2009 - 4:23am
I haven't had this happen to me, thank goodness. I would never even think of taking a sibling along to a party they had not been invited too and expecting that they should join in. Parties are expensive and people should have the sense and good manners to realise this.