birthday party incident...overreacting?
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|Sun, 02-15-2009 - 11:22pm|
First, my ex is in jail. Finally! So, my daughter is having a hard time and her behavior is changing just a little...but she was invited to a birthday that was today. The little girl and boy (twins) are in her class. She was very excited about going to the party...and I was excited for her because she's so clingy and shy maybe.
She picked out two gifts for them and was just really eager to go. When we arrived parents gave us this look as if they didn't expect us to show. I brushed it off because my daughter was excited. I am not sure what happened, but one child didn't want my daughter to play a game with them, and I didn't know what was going on and I like for children to work out their differences as long as they aren't physically hurting one another. So, I didn't pay it any attention really. But my daughter didn't seem upset or hurt so, I continued talking with another parent. Which her daughter decided that she wouldn't play with the other kids because they were being mean to my daughter. She came and told her mother.
I tried not to make a big deal about it and told my daughter to just be herself and to always be nice regardless. BUT during the middle of the party, the twins had gifts for the children who came to their party....which was over 30 kids. And when they're parents sent out the invites they asked to respond via email stating any allergies or things that your child cannot have or are afraid of. Of course I let them know that she was allergic to nuts and that she's afraid of snakes including toy ones. So, when my daughter opened her bag, there was this huge rubber snake and she was terrified. She dropped it and freaked out! Her face turned red, and she was completely upset.
I calmed her down. And reassured her that it was okay. I thought maybe all the kids received the same gift, but her friend's mother was like no, my daughter got candy. What's worse is that the "Thank you" card read, "We only invited you because my dad said we had too. But we don't play with girls like you."
That was the last straw for me. I dropped everything and grabbed my child and left. I couldn't believe that someone would be so mean. Of course the children's father called and left a message asking was everything okay, and I realized right then that he didn't know. --I am not sure what to think or to expect, but am I overreacting? Because I am not sure what's meant by "We don't play with girls like you" mean. Is it because my daughter's father is in jail or because she's biracial? I am not really sure. And, I don't understand why these children would do something like this....my daughter was so upset that she couldn't breathe. She's never had problems breathing. and I felt bad because I try to make it out to be an honest mistake, but was it?
I am really upset. She's really upset. She doesn't want to go to school tomorrow and I don't want to send her. But my mother says, that she cant run from everything...I think that she needs to see her therapist tomorrow...but I think that I am freaking. I don't know...I am just afraid of her being hurt.
I know that kids will be kids, but that's just mean. And how did they know that my daughter was afraid of snakes if an adult hadn't of said anything. I am sure their mother may have said not to put such and such in the bag for so and so...and that she didn't do it intentionally, but why would a child do something like this to another? I don't know what to say to the parents because I am so upset...