birthday party schedules

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Registered: 05-01-2003
birthday party schedules
Sun, 06-03-2007 - 5:04pm

Recently, it seems like birthday party invitations are getting sort of weird. I wonder if anyone else has noticed this?

Over the past few months, my kids have been invited to a couple of birthday parties on days that don't work for us--once we were going to be away that weekend, another time my son had an award ceremony for scouts. Both times I simply said we couldn't make it because of other obligations, and both times the parents offered another date. They were throwing a second party for those who couldn't make it to the first one.

We've also recently begun receiving "save the date" cards for birthday parties. Like the kind you sometimes get for a wedding, a month or two before the regular invitations go out. Except that these are for regular schoolkid birthday parties--15 kids having fun and eating cake.

And we've also recently had parents schedule the birthday party to accommodate us. They'll ask when we (and, I assume, other families) can make it, and they schedule the party then. I think this makes sense when it's going to be a very small party or when my child and the birthday child are especially close. But that's not always the case.

It feels a little crazy to me. Is this the future of birthday parties?

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Registered: 01-02-2006
Sun, 06-03-2007 - 6:52pm

That trend hasn't started here yet.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 06-04-2007 - 2:36pm
I think life is so busy and hectic now a days that parents are drawing straws ( correct phrase???) to make time for the kids.

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Registered: 03-05-2004
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 4:05pm

Wow. That seems REALLY strange to me. I'm glad that our dd & her friends tend to stick to their own little group & nobody's started the "invite the whole class" type parties. That's just TOO much IMHO. It's hard enough for the kids that they HAVE to be friends with everyone at school; I'm not forcing that at a birthday party: it's the birthday kid's day, they should get to spend it with their friends, not being politically correct to the class bully, the class crybaby and the class clown, kwim?

The only time we've experienced the "will you be available to celebrate on...." requests have been from family members who want to plan large family gatherings ~ and that's just because I'm the ONLY person in our ENTIRE extended family who works a Monday - Friday, 8-5 LOL.

the only "two parties" situations I've seen have been a family party separate from a friends party or a smaller group spending the night at the birthday child's house after the larger celebration.

I wouldn't really fenagle anything to accomodate another family's plans unless it were one of dd's 2 "ever since I was a baby" friends .... otherwise, that's just too weird for me. the only other possible exception I can see to this would be for a small (2 or 3 kid) sleepover event that parents were trying to coordinate or a situation where a child's parents have joint custody that complicates when the child is where.

I'm not much of one to concentrate on "good turn out" because dd will have fun no matter what and a lower turnout is better for my wallet ... that's probably a crass thing to say, but there's no denying that birthday parties are a hit in the wallet for any parent.

Edited 6/7/2007 4:18 pm ET by blythe_one