Can't finish within time frame

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Registered: 10-19-2006
Can't finish within time frame
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Thu, 10-19-2006 - 6:39pm
I have a 6 year old d who can't seem to finish ANYTHING with in a given time frame. She shows no other forms of attention problems. She seems to be on the other end of the spectrum, a perfectionist, but not quite OCD. Problem is it takes her forever to be perfect. Eating breakfast, getting dressed, bed time... all the same. She consistently either brings work home or finishes during recess. She consistently does 100%, but it takes her FOREVER! I need suggestions to help her either speed up or not worry about being perfect all the time. She is a healthy eater, big on hygene, 4th grade reading level, big on appearance, must color EVERYTHING inside the lines and with exact colors - even if she has to make them. I don't want to discourage her interest, just speed her up. PLEASE HELP!!!
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Fri, 10-20-2006 - 1:44am

Ah yes, we continue to deal with this with my oldest (9, 5th grade.) She's highly gifted

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Mon, 10-23-2006 - 7:52am

I struggle with this because I don't know if it a bad thing for her to enjoy taking her time and doing it well. Does SHE have any issues with it?

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Mon, 10-23-2006 - 8:43am
I appreciate the suggestions. It does seem to cause problems. We use an egg timer in the mornings so she know when she needs to be done. But even this doesn't always work. I have a 4 year old and a 1 year old that I have to get ready in the mornings as well as myself... so I can't just stand over her. In school she misses out on activities and free time because she is still finishing her work for the day, meanwhile everyone else is running around. Sometimes she does get distracted talking, watching the other kids, but for the most part it is because she must have everything perfect. Besides the being late for everything issue. She needs to understand that she won't always have all day to get her work done (timed quizes, blocked classes where work must be turned in at the end of the period, etc.) When I am in the class room it does help a little, but i can't be there all of the time.
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Mon, 10-23-2006 - 10:24am
I am somewhat in your shoes whith this. At Thanksgiving.(Canada) All the kids came out of the class with thier turkey pictures and proudly showing them off. I get hers with a brown circle and a colorful tail. I asked why it wasn't finished and she said she ran out of time. She wanted it to look real. AHHHH! YOUR 6 YEARS OLD!!! Anyways I just shrugged. She is a perfectionist in soccer, and doesnot tolerate goofing off. We won't even go there with scoring goals! Reading...if she gets stuck on a word..meltdown.Her clothes have to match, her hair must be perfect. Canwe say DIVA!!! But it takes forever!
But I am getting sick of my own voice trying to get her to "hurry up". I empty her lunch bag, and she's eaten like 2 little things. She doesn't have time to eat! Again, 6 years old!!!They need to eat! At least she is getting quicker at the end of the day, and is not the last one! Her printing has to be very neat and they have to copy things off the board before they can leave.
I guess I have just started to get her going 10 minutes earlier than we were. And if she still is slow, I add minutes. My voice is tired of yelling.
I guess all I can suggest is, if she can't tell time yet, lie about what time it is. I tell her it's 8:30am, when it's only 8:15am. That way she ends up standing at the door yelling it's time to go at 8:30am. After changing her socks 3 times, cause they don't match!!HAHAHAHA
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Wed, 10-25-2006 - 8:10am

I see. Have you had her checked out by the pediatrician just to make sure her hearing and sight is OK? I think that could cause her to be cautious, know what I mean?


Other than that, I would set a timer just like you're doing, and hold her to it. Whatever isn't done, just isn't done. Maybe you can help her pase herself that way.

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Wed, 10-25-2006 - 9:24am
The egg timer worked til her younger brother broke it. I have talked to her teacher several times about it. She keeps me informed when I am not in the classroom. She isn't really concerned yet and tells me not to be, I just would like to help my daughter begin to learn time management since she seems to have a problem with it. Maybe I am just working myself up... afterall, she is an A+ student.
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Wed, 10-25-2006 - 12:02pm
You know what I have found? I am so much harder on Tre BECAUSE he is an A+ student. I think we should relax a little....obviously we're doing a great job without the worry! *wink*

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