I have a couple of thoughts for you.
We are trying to not be too hard on her about the school issues.
I understand about the noise and did start implementing that if they were screaming or being loud, then I restart the timer and add a minute.
It sounds to me like this is NOT a phase but a reaction to very strong and confusing feelings. New teacher and new kids, that is a very scary situation. Ask open ended questions, make open ended comments, to see if she will talk, be on her side ( even if you do not 100% agree with her). "Mom, I called out because I knew the answer. No one else was answering." " I know it is hard to wait when you know the answer." (Leave space for her to talk). "How can you show that you know the answer and still let others in the class have a turn?" If she really is advanced the teacher could have her help other kids who are having a harder time. It has been shown that some children respond better to peers than their teacher. She would be busy and feel good about herself.Does she have friends in the class now? Will she agree to play dates so that she can make new friends? When she acts up try not to get into the dance of fighting. Stay calm. If you are calm she will have to be. "Wow that must have hurt when your brother stepped on your foot. Do you want to sit down for a moment or do you want him to get you some ice? ( I know he is little but he could hand it to her)She will feel supported and understood. Feel free to have a meeting with the teacher . Ask her what she thinks and do not be afraid to give the teacher ideas. She is your daughter and you know what she needs.
Thanks for asking for me.
If you need anything else feel free to email or call meBrandi
I met with Gianna's teacher yesterday afternoon.