disciplining an aggressive 6 year old

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Registered: 03-30-1999
disciplining an aggressive 6 year old
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Thu, 11-13-2008 - 2:11pm

ok, so last week DS had an outburst and punched me in the face resulting in a killed tooth which now needs a root canal.

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Registered: 07-09-2001
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 11:44am

I really don't have words of wisdom. It's good that there is a therapist involved. He is 6 so I assume that he is in school; how does he behave at school?

He does know what he is doing ... and he will "get it" if you keep with it. Don't back down ... don't ever give in.

How can you make the punishment fit the crime? Some suggestions -

He bit you - Give him a carrot stick or teething rig "If you want to bite, these are things you can bite. In this family WE USE OUR WORDS to talk about feelings".

He punched you - Take his hands in one of yours and tell him that hands are for hugs "In this family our hands love. It is NOT OK FOR YOU TO ABUSE PEOPLE YOU LOVE".

Or ...

Another philosophy says to let them think of a punishment. I think I would do this with a lesser issue ... like writing on the walls.

Or ...

Make them WAIT until you think of a punishment. It allows them to see "oh god - I really am in trouble". so, "when dad gets home, I will let you know what your punishment is. Until then you have to (stay in your room)"

I just wanted to add that his behaviors are not "aggressive" they are "abusive". That is not meant to offend you. Aggression is snatching to toys. Hitting is abuse.

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Registered: 04-02-2008
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 11:40am

It does sound like he's trying to get extra attention from you, but I totally understand that this behavior has got to be nipped in the bud.

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