frustrated by accidents

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Registered: 04-02-2007
frustrated by accidents
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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 8:53pm

My six year old son who will be seven at the end of August is still wetting his pants. I swear it is pure laziness on his part because it usually happens when he is playing in the yard. He just refuses to stop playing and come in to go to the bathroom.
Can anyone relate to this? I am so frustrated I just do not know what to do anymore.

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 2:04am

I can totally relate!

I'm not sure if you saw my post a few days ago on the 10-14 message board, but my DD who is 11 y/o has the same problem.

It mostly happens at night time or when she is napping, but there have been times when she gets too "distracted" and invloved with something else.

I've even talked to her ped. about it at her last checkup and he was not very concerned with it and said that it should stop when she starts puberty. Appearently its pretty common according to him, but if it continues after this summer I think im going to get a second opinion. I tried to ask advice from other moms and see if it was actually common among girls her age, but no one on that board seemed to resond or have any suggestions.

The one thing that has worked well is having her wear special underwear called Goodnites, but that is ovbviously only a temporarly solution.

Good luck, keep us posted!

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Registered: 04-02-2007
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 7:45pm

Thank you for your reply. It is nice to know that I am not totally alone on this one. I keep feeling like I did something wrong or maybe somehow didn't potty train him correctly. But I think it just comes down to distraction like you said. He also holds his bowels for days then gets horribly constipated until he has an accident because he can not hold it in any longer. I still have to remind him to go #2. He very rarely will go and do it with out being told.

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Registered: 08-11-2006
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 12:39am

This is my 1st on this board, but this is exactly what I came to get help with!

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 2:09am

Don't worry, I'm still dealing with the SAME thing and my dd is 11 now, not 7. So trust me, you don't have it THAT bad yet.

I think both our daughters will grow out of it eventually, but hopefully sooner rather then later.

Yes your absolutley right, when she is in the middle of playing or watching something she likes, then its as if she is in a different world and can't be bothered for anything.

Do you have your daughter wear anything?

Well good luck, keep us posted...

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Fri, 05-18-2007 - 2:05pm

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Registered: 01-15-2007
Sat, 05-19-2007 - 2:51pm

I have a bedwetter. She does fine through the day. I am not concerned at all. I too was a bedwetter and I know that when her body works it out it will. I don't scold her and I don't make a big deal out of it. She takes care of the messes and the wet pull-ups, lets me know if her sheets needs washing and will even pull them off her bed for me if she has time. For a bedwetter the bigger deal you make of it the added stress you are adding to the problem and it will actually become worse. Talking from experience. Basically I ignore it. Dh isn't happy with that but that is the best way to handle it. He doesn't get it really. But I have talked to a couple of Dr's about it and with my own experience I know what we are doing is right.

Chelle

 

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Registered: 08-11-2006
Sat, 05-19-2007 - 11:14pm

Thanks for the encouragement!

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Sun, 05-20-2007 - 1:28am

Thank you for your encouragement also! It good to know that there are others out there dealing with the same exact problem!

I know this is really frustrating at times but I agree with winjunebugs2000 that eventually they will grow out of it. Our dr. even said the same thing too. So I guess its just a case of letting it run it course and not putting pressure on our girls.

It is a little more bothersome for me since my daughter is older, but I am going to start giving her more responsibilities including changing, washing, and helping in the laundry process.

Does your daughter wear regular goodnites or pullups? I'm kind of surprised that my DD actually likes her Goodnites and thinks they are cute and comfortable. How does your dd feel about them? Does she only wear them right before she goes to bed?

Let me know and good luck!

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Registered: 01-15-2007
Mon, 05-21-2007 - 1:21am

I know you weren't asking me but I had to answer. My daughter only wears her's just before going to bed. She is embarrassed by them at times. She will only talk to me about her problem in private and I stress to her sister at times that this is something she is to not tease or humilate her sister with. If i ever hear she has done that she will be in big trouble. She always gets a somber look on her face and understands. I think she feels for her sister. She herself will wet the bed on occassion, too much to drink just before bed.

Chelle

 

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Sat, 05-26-2007 - 7:06am
I think a lot of children do that. My son is six he still is a bad bed wetter but stays dry during the day. My DD is a different story she is four, she does the pee pee dance and makes it to the toilet but can't get her pants down fast enough and pees on the floor. She sometimes will do the dance and you ask her do you need to go and she answers with a "no" and before you no it we are cleaning up a child and a floor. So I just stopped asking her and say it is time to go, it has helped but if I am not there to see the dance, well then we know what happens then, another clean up job. I do have her help me in the clean up process. I don't think boys do the pee pee dance as much as girls though, I do notice them holding themselves though. Whatever you do I wouldn't ever resort to letting him wear goodnites when he is awake, that just makes the cycle go on forever and I am sure your goal is to have them grow out of it. Hang in there because they do grown out of it, I am in the childcare profession and I promise it gets better. It just takes patience and then more patience, do you sometimes wonder where you find the amount of patience you do? LOL!!!

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