The Heathers (rant)
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|Wed, 01-04-2006 - 10:39am|
Remember the movie The Heathers?
That's what dd's teacher calls the girls in her class who have this catty little clique going on. For crying out loud, these kids are 6 years old, it's 1/2 day kindy... dd already dislikes going to school & has bad dreams. This is RIDICULOUS!
I really like her teacher (he's the favorite in the whole district, actually), and have faith that he's doing all he can about it (he's separating the girls in question, encouraging -rather forcefully sometimes, lol- the class to act as a "whole group", even scolding sometimes. He has talked to parents...sheesh! He said in his 28 years of teaching, he has never seen anything like this!
I only know one of the parents of the girls in question, and frankly, it's not a real reach to see where the one girl's behavior is coming from. So I don't see the point in trying to enlighten her mom....
Meanwhile, dd isn't part of the "brown hair club" (she's the only blonde girl in the class), or the "Cheetah girls" (the girls who go to aftercare)... I have tried to let her know that these aren't real clubs, she's not being left out of anything, they're just "clubs" that the girls made up....that differences are just differences, there's no "better" and "worse", and differences are certainly not good reasons to leave others out.....and that she doesn't want to be part of an exclusionary clique anyway... but how do you convince a small kid of that?
There are plenty of other girls in the class being affected by this too, but that doesn't console her; I'm encouraging her to play with the nicer kids, that's not helping.... and then there's the thing about having all the right stuff hanging from your backpack zipper, and the trendy clothes.... she's SIX YEARS OLD, and miserable already!
I'm actually toying with (not too seriously yet) the idea of homeschooling. But I know I don't have what it takes to do that....
Sure, these girls might be separated into different classes next year, but it seems they're the sort to just form new class cliques, you know? And if a teacher I really believe in can't curb this, I fear what next year (with a different teacher) might bring.