Hi! De-lurking

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Registered: 03-03-2006
Hi! De-lurking
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 3:27pm

My name is Nan. My ds7 is Rhett and my dd11 is Aubrey. I've lurked on this board a couple of times over the past week and now I'm coming out!

I frequent the 10-12 y.o. board b/c I always feel like I'm in uncharted territory with my "tween." With ds, I generally think BTDT. But sometimes I have to admit to myself that a son is by default quite unlike a daughter. And besides, my kids have vastly different personalities.

So, I look forward to seeing what's common for 7yo and especially boys!

One question on my mind a lot lately is: Should I be concerned if my ds doesn't have a lot of friends? He says lots of things about being very jealous of his sister's many friends and active social calendar. But when he has the chance to play with a friend, he'll often turn it down. From my perspective, much of the reason dd gets so many invites is b/c she almost never turns them down. I try to impress on ds that he needs to find his own social style and not compare himself to dd so much. (She's also 3 1/2 yrs older!)

Is this just the difference in their personalities? Or are boys more likely to have fewer friends than girls generally?


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Registered: 08-20-2003
In reply to: nan_hart
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 9:59pm

Hey Nan, Nice to see you here too!

I am with you!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: nan_hart
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 1:25pm

Welcome to the board!! I'm so glad you're actively posting!

As for the friends situation, I think it's just personalities. He may just need time to warm up to parties and social gatherings, etc. How does he do on playdates? Can you invite some kids over for a gatering YOU all host? That may break the ice. =)

Good luck!!!! Welcome, again!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: nan_hart
Fri, 04-07-2006 - 11:04am

Welcome Nan, it's nice to meet you.

I have two girls, and they are as different as night and day. I think, about the friends thing, that your two might just have different personalities. If your son is reticent about making friends, I would suggest making playdates for him with just one or two other boys. I know that if I didn't step up and make playdates for Gillian, because of the type of neighborhood we live in she'd never get to play with any one.

I hope to get to know you better.

Lynn, mom to Gillian(6 1/2) and Hilary(20)