Hi, new here and question

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Registered: 05-10-2006
Hi, new here and question
Mon, 09-18-2006 - 10:00pm

Hello, my name is Tina and I have 3 kids, they are Jacob 3 1/2 yrs with autism, Emily 6 yrs, and Nicholas 7 1/2 yrs with ADHD. My question is, how do I get them to stay in their beds at night???? I give Nick melatonin before bed b/c otherwise he's lying awake for 2+ hours before he can go to sleep. EMily goes right to sleep no problem, but every single night the past few weeks (maybe longer) they both get up in the night and come in my bed. Sometimes I don't even notice Nick has come in until I wake up later. But Emily comes in all talking to me and dragging her bedding in. I escort them back to their beds, say goodnight etc...Usually Nick stays, but Emily can be up anywhere from 3-5 times a night. WHY? The other night I kept my door closed but they woke up dh all night (he usually falls asleep on the LR floor in front of the TV) and he works at 6 am and can't afford to lose much sleep. Getting them to sleep is easy, it's keeping them there that's hard! Any advice would be appreicated. Thanks!


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Registered: 06-05-2006
Tue, 09-19-2006 - 12:41pm

Welcome to the Board! I'm mostly a lurker, so not many others know me here.

I'm not going to be much help, since DD (6) has been ending up in my bed the last week or two, also. I think hers is connected to starting school. When she is anxious, she has nightmares and sleeps poorly. So I put up with it for a couple of weeks. It is hard to tell when night waking is a bad habit, and when it is a sign of something else. When its a new thing, I think it has a cause and am more sympathetic.

As far as Emily bringing bedding up, I would discuss it during the day and tell her to leave it on her own bed. She's old enough to understand that. And tell her she's not to talk and wake you up. I stress to DD how tired I am in the morning if I'm wakened and I do act crabby! So she tries to be accomodating. At my house we "make a deal" about how many nights she can come upstairs, after that I'll be escorting her back down to her room.

When it gets really bad, and I'm not getting enough sleep, I put a pad (with sheet and blanket) on the floor next to my bed for her. She usually doesn't even wake me up when she climbs in there. If she's had a nightmare, I'll let her fall asleep with me, then I'll move her to the floor.

I was so proud that DD slept thru the night in her own bed at age 2-4... but then everything changed and her sleep has been so much worse the last two years. You never know!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 09-20-2006 - 5:02pm

I think its a form of habit now for them. HUGS to you because it sounds like no one is getting much sleep in

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