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Tue, 05-08-2007 - 7:12pm

I used to post here years ago....

My Daughter Abby is in first grade. Her teacher thinks she is lacking in self esteem....I seem to hear this a lot.She also wants to send her to the summer math literacy program to help with math. It is a long class, about two and a half weeks.We can send her but I don't want to erode her esteem further! I think Abby just struggles with new things.Has anyone gone to a summer school and how was the experience? Abby is a young first grader, born Aug. 20. She always has been a bit clingy with Mom(I stay home)and she is a very quiet girl (but not at home!).She also has an 11 y/o brother she tries to keep up with. We do encourage her to do things on her own and she gets lots of praises. Any words of wisdom would be wonderful!

Jenni

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In reply to: jenkanooth
Wed, 05-09-2007 - 10:58am

Hi!
Although my daughter has neither of Abby's traits, I did as a child, have both a math disability and low self esteem. Around the 3rd or 4th grade, my parents got me a math tutor for the summer. She was a neighbor and a teacher. We became fast friends. I helped her supervise her 4 kids (I was the oldest of 6 so I was a pro at it by then) and helped her with household chores and she threw in a little math now and then so she could take my parents money with a clear conscience. It was a great arrangement for both of us. I still have a math disability~it poses me nearly no problem as an adult. Long story longer, if I were you I'd seriously assess my child's math "issue" and decide if it really warrants "treatment" so significant as a math literacy program (which sounds about as much fun as sticking bamboo shoots under one's nails). It seems in the new times of testing and accountability, both educators and parents seem to panic early on if a child has the slightest learning difference. Developmentalists know that children learn different skills at different paces at this age and most of the research suggests that this levels off by 3rd grade. I haven't seen much out there on the effectiveness of summer learning programs for such young children but the research on summer learning programs in general are pretty mixed in the area of overall effectiveness. If I took any action at all on it, I'd likely step up her math opportunties at home.

As for self esteem, at this age outside influences really do play a factor in it for her. They love it when someone from outside the norm recognizes a strength in them or praises them. Are there activities that she enjoys and/or has some proficiency at? Are there a group of kids that she enjoys or interacts with well? If so, I'd maximize those areas in the summer for her.

Good luck! Hope you have a great summer!!!
Cheryl (Olivia's 10-11-00 mom)

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In reply to: jenkanooth
Wed, 05-09-2007 - 12:07pm

True self-esteem doesn't come from praise, it comes from knowing you are a capable person. If she needs the help in math, by all means get it for her. You may not see the benefit this summer but next year when she's better prepared for 2nd grade, she'll certainly feel better about herself.

Summer school is usually a great time to learn. The teacher's pull out the fun parts of the curriculum they never get to use. They do more game based math learning as opposed to workbooks. They do more hands-on science than lectures. The teacher's are more relaxed, the days are shorter, the playground isn't so crowded. She'll be with kids who are also need a little help and that may make her feel less iscolated.

My oldest went last year and will go again this year. Our district offers programs for kids struggling but also GATE, theatre, art and orchestra. They also offer classes for middle school kids who want to skip 6th or 7th grade math for example. DS (my 1st grader) is in Spanish Immersion so he'll go to their summer school. It's very much a "fun" class as the idea is to keep them using their Spanish conversationally over the summer. I like that in our area, summer school isn't just for kids that are "failing." It's just another option of something to do over the summer.

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In reply to: jenkanooth
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 1:58pm

Thank you very much! I will let her go!

Jenni

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In reply to: jenkanooth
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 2:03pm

I love the name Olivia.

I told the next poster I will send Abby but after I read you email, I think I will check the success rate for this program. It is just SO long. I'm going to talk with her teacher again too.

Thank you so much!

Jenni and Abby
8-20-00

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: jenkanooth
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 2:00pm

Welcome!!! I'm glad to see t hat you got some support from the wonderful ladies onboard! I hope we hear more from you, particluuarly throughout the summer to hear how your daughter is excelling! =)


Unfortunately the only way to help them through difficult situations is by having them actually go through them and deal with it. I know that isn't easy to hear or think about.

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