homework advice, pleeeaase!

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homework advice, pleeeaase!
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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 6:17pm
My daughter is in kindergarten and she doesn't bring home homework much but once in awhile and I cringe EVERY time! With ANYTHING she does she always acts like she can't do it around me and she won't try. With tying her shoes, riding her bike or writing her name she will tell me she can't do it and act like she has such a hard time trying but when she is with someone else she will be an expert at it. And I get so frustrated cause I know it's just an act she is putting on but WHY! She brought home a worksheet on counting money tonight. All the other worksheets that she brings home from school say "Good Job!" and have stars on them and she got all the answers right. But when we sit down to work on her homework she rubs her eyes, won't look at the paper, mumbles her words etc. I KNOW she knows this stuff but she will not think about it when I'm around. WHYYYYYYYYY! Our homework session ended in tears which made me feel AWFUL but I refuse to do her work for her and give her the answers. How do I get her to stop acting helpless around me and act more confident about how smart she is? I praise her and tell her how smart she is ALL THE TIME? How do I end these homework blues?
Rae
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Registered: 08-30-2005
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 7:04pm

I know exactly what you are going through. I have a son who is now 10 and we have been dealing with this since he started school. I would get so frustrated and we would argue. I started having him do his work by himself. I would sit and try to be quiet and let him show me what he has learned. Like he was being the teacher. This worked well for awhile. It is really hard because they learn it one way at school and then when they get home we teach it the best way we can. I know its hard, but you will work it out.

Monica

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 11:58am

A couple of questions:

When are you having her do the homework? Is it right after school?

If it's right after school I would wait until after she's had some "down" time. She just got out of 4 hours (approx) of regimented time, being told what to do, when and for how long. Let her have free time and a good snack and get her second wind of the day going. Maybe you could have her do her page at the counter while you are making dinner?

Does she go to all day Kindy? If she does then I think sending homework home is too much! Maybe you can talk to her teacher about it. If she's getting stars on all her school work why does she need additional *busy work* at home? She probably realizes she knows the work, and wonders why is she being made to do more of the same.

Lynn

Lynn
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 1:38pm

Homework is not the easiest thign to deal with, I know. My son hates it, too. He can breeze through it; he just hates to apply the time to do it.

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