"I wish i wasn't born" said my 6yo (m)

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Registered: 04-02-2003
"I wish i wasn't born" said my 6yo (m)
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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 10:32am
my drama queen told me this over the wkend. she is a high strung child (gets it from me) so lately she's been 'confessing' every thought she has. thoughts like, "i saw a girl who i didn't think was pretty".... etc... she calls these her "bad thoughts". she told me that she wishes she wasn't born b/c of her bad thoughts. i of course tried not to freak. dh asked her if she knew what that would mean, and she told him no. then when he explained it to her, she cried, so i'm HOPING she once again was being dramatic when she told me this. how do i deal with her constant confessing silly things & do you think i should be worried about her comment??? i mean, 6yo's don't REALLY know what that means, do they?
thanks b/c i need help!
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Registered: 08-31-2004

Oh, how sad!

I doubt that six year olds really get what they are saying about birth and death. How can they really understand the finality of these concepts? But I think that all six year olds like to have reassurance that they are loved and wanted and valuable and useful to their families. I probably would have said something like, "Oh, but *I* am so so glad you were born! What would I do without you? Where would I get my special little girl hugs? Do you know what my face would look like if I didn't have you?" Then I would show her my sad clown face.

I think kids need to know that no matter what the rest of the world thinks of them, their mother thinks they are just super-terrific.

Take care,

Susan

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Registered: 04-02-2003

well, i immediately started crying, and asked her "mommy wouldn't be able to live without you", "there's not a little girl in the world who is more loved than you", etc.
dh thinks she's needing reassurance b/c we're expecting a baby in March.

kristie

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Registered: 08-31-2004

Aaaawwwww... now see? You handled it perfectly with your super duper Mommy Instincts! :)
Your husband is probably right. Do you have other kids or will it just be the two of them (once the little stinker is born, that is :)?

When I was pregnant with my daughter, my son asked me some heartwrenching questions typical for only children who are awaiting a sibling. I always told him, "No one will ever take your place, Sweetums. You are the little boy who made me a Mommy. Before you, I was just plain old boring Susan. YOU made me a mommy and no one else will ever be able to say that!"

Hope your pregnancy is going well... :)

Susan

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