{I'm new} Distracted in school

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{I'm new} Distracted in school
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Thu, 03-26-2009 - 1:57pm

I'm new to this board, but I'm in search of some good ideas from other wise parents.

My DS, 7 today!, has just received his report card. He is a very smart child who is eager to please - which is very nice, yet this also means he's also eager to please his friends too. This puts him into a dilemma at school ... he tries to be the good student, but there are 2 boys (goof-offs) who will scoot toward him & easily distract him.

His teacher & I discussed this at our first parent-teacher conference. She told me as long as he is not sitting by these other boys he does what he is supposed to do. I have seen with my own eyes, when I volunteer for a party, that he will sit in his own space & the other boys will slowly scoot across the floor to reach him & then wrestling begins. (Then my son is reminded he's suppose to choose his spot more wisely.)

Due to the "distractions" he is having difficulty completing his work on time, listen attentively, use class time effectively & lacks organization skills (going by report card here).

Due to the amount of snow days parent teacher conferences were canceled for the spring. Reading notes on the report card she specifically says she tries to sit him where he will not be distracted, so I believe it's the two other boy again.

I believe this was a problem last year as well. He had a horrible teacher last year and that made communication difficult. I think he was suffering in the same places as mentioned above.

I'm thinking of sending him to school every Friday with a premade report for his teacher to quickly circle & sign his progress & if he does well for 3 weeks in a row he gets a reward.

My question is, should I concentrate on only 1 area to not overwhelm him (and figure if one is in place the other will start to fall into place) or start with all 4 "improvement needed" areas?

Again here are the 4 "improvement needed"

Complete work on time
Listen attentively
Use class time effectively
Demonstrate organization skills

Thanks!

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Fri, 03-27-2009 - 11:50am
I could have written almost the exact same post about my DD. She loves to make people laugh, and has gotten all the same comments on her report cards. However, she gets her work completed. What we do is talk to her about behaving in class. To tell the teacher is bothersom kids, that are getting her into trouble, are disturbing her. That way the teacher can put a stop to it before she gets into trouble. She also, finally, is starting to understand that recess or lunch is her time to chatter & cut up. We also have partially learned to except that this is her personality. She will always be a talker. She will always want to make others laugh. She will always be disorganzied, and get distracted easily, its just her. What we are doing is helping her to find small ways to be more organized at school, but not as much at home. If it means the occasional lost shoe, coat, toy, instead of lost school work, we can live with that.


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Sun, 03-29-2009 - 11:42am

Welcome to the board!

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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 6:55pm

Week one ended with FANTASTIC results !!

I ended up putting on all 4, but gave each one a different value, making the 'listening' and 'getting work done on time' top priority. Then I just have where she needs to circle one column for each category (decline, same, improved). There is a column for her initials ... just never know when kids will get 'smart.'

First she had emailed me, thanking me for doing this and stating she wished other parents would do this and would look at my form to see if she could use it for other students.

Then when she filled out the form (all improvements) she wrote in, 'he had an excellent week!'

I'm so excited. I had already noticed it because he didn't get any spelling homework (they bring home words they missed during test or words they didn't finish during allotted time.)

LOL ... the best part, because it is mostly one particular child who seems to distract him, my DS decided the rewards should revolve around this friend, so he too, would be willing to cooperate in class. So his friend gets to have the bus drop him off at our stop next week to play at our house & if DS gets 65% of the possible points they get a sleep over at the end of the school year.

Now ... if I can just get this boy to eat I just might have the most perfect child in the world!




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Sat, 04-04-2009 - 1:47pm
That's awesome!

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