lack of initiative of friends

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2008
lack of initiative of friends
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Sun, 12-20-2009 - 12:36am
question for you guys. my wife and i have found that we are practically the only couple we know who initiates get togethers. no one ever calls us. yet there are many who, when we call them are ready to get together. why is this? obviously there are others who initiate things, but how come everyone we meet doesnt bother to call on us?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2008
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 11:11am
Personally, I have a hard time initiating those type of things because I don't want to intrude on other people or have the other person feel obligated to say yes.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2008
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 4:06pm
yah. but you have to initiate sometimes dont you? do you just wait around for people to call you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-02-2004
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 11:24am
It is easier for me to ask people to meet at the park than it is to meet at my home. Previously we lived in a really small place that became really crowded when there was more than family there. More recently, we just moved and still have boxes that are not unpacked. I am not sure that others would understand my level of comfort with clutter. As a person who does not initiate often, I do appreciate people like you who do!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2008
Tue, 12-29-2009 - 1:28pm
I initiate sometimes, but for the most part, I'm pretty content just doing my own thing.

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