Manipulative behavior/drama queen?
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|Sat, 12-23-2006 - 7:38am|
I have a 7 year old. I love him dearly.
Here is the typical routine:
7am he wakes on his own. Runs into my room and climbs on my bed singing and improvised good morning song, Good morning Mom!!!
He skips down the stairs and turns the music on and dances or sings while I cook breakfast with breaks only to hug the dogs. Breakfast, school. Back at home, he reports on his day at school, usually he is feeling like he made a bunch of mistakes, but had a good time, then homework, which his does successfully, with a little help, dinner, bath, story and a happpy off to bed. He is a good happy kid at home.
He plays the cello and can focus on one activity like legos, reading, or arts/crafts for hours if he's engaged. He's not squirmy, and is a good helper and listener. Generally few complaints about life at home!
At school, it's another story. Seems every month the school cousellor has a different story evry month. He's depressed, he must be ADHD, he's ADD, He has learning disabilities, he's this he's that...
In school he's squirmy, yes, but if he doesn't get his way he'll pout, cry, or throw some version of a tantrum. He says "I'm dumb" I hate myself' according to the teachers. To this they either hug him, give him easier work, help him for half and hour with the assignment (that I know he can do by himself), or they send hin to the school counsellor, who he thinks is the greatest person at the school. He LOVES the school counsellor. He reports, "I got to see Ms. So and So!" grinning.
He misbehaves like this with babysitters, too. Once at a grocery store the sitter, an experienced mom, asked him to stop some silliness. He persisted. She told me that she then went down to his level and put her hands on his shoulders to address him directly. To this he dramatically threw himself on the floor yelling "You pushed me, you are so mean to me!" Being in public, the sitter was very embarassed of course. I know this sitter very well and know she would not push or shove a child. But that kind of behavior is the exact "Drama queen" behavior my kid is doing at school.
So what do I do? Currently he's going through a battery of tests at school to assess ADHD, and intelligence. At home, any changes I can make?