need advice - worried

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Registered: 02-19-2004
need advice - worried
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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 10:54am
I haven't be here for a while, but now I'm back and need some advice. My daughter (7) is in 2nd grade and is slow in her reading, which makes her slower to do her worksheets. She is getting help at school once per week and we have signed her up for a tutor 3x per week outside of school. The reason for this is to get her caught up to her classmates in reading. Her teacher expressed to me after 8 days of school that she thought maybe she should go back to 1st grade due to her 'slowness'. I just spoke to her teacher again yesterday to see if she is improving and her teacher did say a little, but again stated that she wonders if she would do better in 1st grade again. I asked my daughter how she felt about going back to 1st grade and she started crying immediately (it was a tough night after that). She has some trouble staying focused and being distracted, but it is getting better, as is her reading. I feel like the teacher is, for lack of a better term, out to get her. Should I say something to the principal now or wait to see what her report card says (comes out on Nov 18)? The school does not know that she is getting additional reading help outside of school. She knows the skills being taught in school, but due to her low level of reading sometimes doesn't get the sheets done in the alloted time frame and has to finish them later, hence why her teacher says she is slow. Help! I need some advice how to handle this. Should we send her back now before she completes 2nd grade?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 10-19-2005 - 1:38pm

Gosh that is tough. I really discourage a regression after school has stared. That does a LOT of damage to a child's self esteem. I would talk with the principal, and get her evaluated. Let them know that it is NOT an option to move her this year. They better get her some help in that class if necessary, but demoting her now is absolutely absurd!


They HAVE to help her in the least restrictive environment possible, mommy. Don't let their mumbo jumbo intimidate you by any means, if they chose to go that route.


Once she has been evaluated and has an IEP in place, you can pretty much detail what she gets. Ther eis a board on the village that can help you with that. The cl is Steph and she's GREAT!


Here's the link:


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-ppiep


and here's another board that may help you a bit:


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-psproblems


There's a 1st, 2nd and 3rd grade board, too...


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-pr123


I hope some of this helps, mommy. HUGS! Please come backa nd let us know how things are going

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