neighbor kids

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neighbor kids
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 4:01pm
DD will be 6 in a month so she is just starting to play with neighbor kids. I don't let her leave our yard because I don't feel she is old enough and I don't really know the people we live around yet. But there is one kid her age that has ran around this neighborhood since he was like 3 years old!
I've always told dd (with one neighbor who lives close by), that she can play in their yard but she is not to go in thier house. That way I can retrieve her whenever it's time to come home. But this little boy wants to come into our house to play. I don't feel comfortable letting him play in the house because I don't know his parents and I don't know how they would feel about it. So I keep encouraging them to play outside together. Do you let your child run in and out of other poeple's houses? What are your rules with your kids and playing with the other neighborhood kids? When I was a kid we didn't want to play in the house, we were outside all day!
Rae
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Registered: 07-24-2007
In reply to: raejm
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 8:18am

I let my girls play outside and go to friends houses -- but, only play outside. I do not let them in others houses. Plus, the younger one (7) can only go to a neighbors if her older sister (9) is with her. The older one has to have her cell phone with her and if I call MUST answer immediately. If she changes yards, she has to call. This works for us, plus, they are only allowed to play on our street.

We also have a child who just seems to run the neighborhood. She is 8 and is always ringing our doorbell. They moved in last spring and since then that child has been on her bike out looking for friends. I don't know why I have a problem with the child, but of all my girls friends, this one irrates me. If she comes over, she will immediatly ask for food or something to drink. If she is going home, she will even ask for "something to go". I have always told my kids to never ask for anything -- if offered, they are allowed to accept, but never ask. If she comes over and the kids can't play she will sit on the front porch and cry and say she has nothing else to do.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
In reply to: raejm
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 6:34pm

why not get to know the parents and set up some sort of guidelines everyone can use.


We have several kids around us that are the same age as our kids, and all of us parents have kind of sort of gotten to know eachother by introducing ourselves and chatting about what is acceptable for their kids.

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Registered: 07-24-2007
In reply to: raejm
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 11:55am

I have tried to get know them. My girls know that my main rule is that kids can't swim in our pool unless I know the parents. I stated my rules to the mother and the child and the mother was in agreement with them.

The problem is that the mother is never home and the father only seems to focus on "his" child. He is constantly out walking with the other child and playing in the yard with him. This poor child just seems so lost. She gets zero attention at home and therefore just roams the neighborhood looking for something to do.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
In reply to: raejm
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 4:24pm

Poor kid


We have a kid like that in our neighborhood, he lives on the other end of the street (long street).

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