New here! HELP Strong willed child
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|Wed, 05-09-2007 - 1:05pm|
Hi! I have a strong-willed 7 year old who challenges me daily. Every morning we but heads on getting dressed. One morning he can't wear a pair of shorts because they are too itchy and the next day those same pair of shorts fit him fine. I can understand that he wants some control over his life so I try not to force anything on him and give him choices... Lord knows you can't MAKE this child do anything he doesn't want to do. He's been that way since birth. I have been told by my parents that he is just like me... wonderful.
This morning he had a huge blow out... he wanted to wear the same shorts he had been wearing all week. They were dirty and stinky but no other pair of shorts would do... every other choice I gave him was too tight, too loose, or too itchy (even shorts he had worn before). When I told him that he could not where dirty clothes to school, he went into an all out temper tantrum throwing his clothes and toys all over his bedroom like a 3 year old! He then went into a time out until he made an acceptable choice to wear to school... he was 20 minutes late to school, by the way.
I want to correct this behavior as it seems it's happening 3-4 times a week. I know I can't change his "stubborness" but throwing a temper tantrum is unacceptable at this age right? I have a 10 year old who never acted this way. Am I doing some thing wrong? Sorry this post was a little long... I just don't know what else I should do.